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Porn doesn't just reveal fetishes, it creates them.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Sep 2, 2017.

  1. I've read many people say that porn doesn't actually create fetishes instead it simply reveals what your "natural" fetishes are. All I have to say to that is BULLSHIT. I don't want to go into details about specific fetishes I've developed because of porn but we all know what the common ones are. Transsexuals, rape, underage, bestiality, sissy, cuckold porn are just a few of the countless fetishes. While a small minority may develop one or more of these on their own, for the overwhelming majority of people I can almost guarantee that porn and the chase of more shocking material is to blame.

    I never had any fetishes when I was a young teen, I was about as normal as it gets. Women and only women turned me on but now that's not the case. I have developed a distorted view of my own sexuality and I have navigated through some truly warped stuff, some of it stuck some didn't. The point is I want rid of these fetishes, they're not my natural state. They were created after I was already deep into my PMO addiction, that's how I know my head is filled with lies not some revealed truth.
     
  2. jest

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    Some individuals claim that P made them realize they liked x,y and z. But let's face it, P is a brain washer and it makes you believe you're into some really strange things. Not only that but it is also a catalyst for certain crimes!

    The P industry is run by literal demons who live off of brainwashing the masses.

    I'm still struggling with "fetishes" myself over 100 days in.
     
  3. The brain is capable of learning, understanding and is susceptable to manipulation. That's why education works, it's why advertising works and it's why things like the news affects peoples views on certain events etc. Why would it be any different with porn? I totally relate to what you are saying regarding desensitisation, been through it myself, seen pretty much everything there is to see regarding porn on the internet. The thing is, us guys and many others spent hours and hours viewing it, that level of exposure IS goig to effect your brain, your perception and the view you hold about yourself and your sexuality, only by fully abstaining can you get back to a more natural state of humanity.
     
  4. Rebooter92

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    I think one can tell apart his innate fetishes from the acquired ones. You just have to think about what aroused you before you came into contact with pornography.
    The most extreme fetishes are almost always acquired. Nobody in his sane mind would be aroused by cuckoldry, which goes against the very biological drive to secure a woman exclusively for oneself, so as to be relatively sure of paternity.
     
  5. Got to Overcome

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    Absolutely. As the research has shown, porn completely rewires brains. All the bizarre, degenerate filth on porn sites has nothing to do with true desires. It's just the way the brain has changed and the body's desire for ever greater flows of dopamine.

    Good post though, man. We've got to fight against those who are trying to normalize all this and continue to destroy the lives of so many.
     
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  6. Although I didn't have enough willpower to avoid porn, I did set limits on myself as to what I was going to watch. All of the hardcore fetishes, including those listed in the OP, were off-limit. I eventually came to the realization that there were enough scenes where penises were a main feature that those had to go too if I wanted to preserve my heterosexuality. That left more than enough material to continue fueling my addiction.
     
  7. I'd agree, the only problem is some people are trying to get others to believe they're all innate. Prior to becoming mentally damaged from porn my only real "fetish" was girls with a nice ass. Everyone knew I was a butt man, lol. In hindsight that isn't much of a fetish, it seems like natural thoughts. What pollutes my mind now are fetishes that have little to do with natural sex and I want to return to my more natural ways of thinking.
     
  8. AtomicTango

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    Back during my darkest points a few months ago, I was always checking various forums and websites to "test" the validity of my fetishes, all it did was make it worse as the people on those sites tried to encourage you to indulge in extreme fetishism, anyone saying that perhaps that wasnt a good idea was shut down as being "sex negative" or a bigot.

    Now dont get me wrong, I dont inherently see a problem with fetishes as long as they arent shoved in my face and are kept to the privacy of the bedroom, but porns mass appeal makes the prevalence of extreme fetishism more and more, well, prevalent. Most people are too ignorant or naive to see that the stuff they think they are into is a direct result of porn and not natural development, and are too deep in the culture to even consider this if you point out that there is such a thing as going too far. I'm an ass man as well but there is a massive, Grand Canyon sized divide between something like, IDK spanking, and wanting to shove a giant dragon dildo up your ass. The fact that people in todays society try to push them as being one and the same in terms of acceptance (in the name of "anti kink-shaming) honestly disturbs me the more I think about it.
     
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  9. It's like the drug addict enouraging another addict to continue, both justifying each others actions. It's safety in numbers isn't it. think about all the different religions and belief structures in the world and political ideals, when enough people band together they can convince themselves that they are right and everyone else is wrong, a lot of the time hard evidence is ignored in favour of pursuing a rose tinted vision, again like the addict ignoring the health consequences or the porn addict not acknowledging the mental health issues in favour of chasing the rush. As much as I now hate porn i wouldn't go up to someone and preach to them, unless they are breaking the law or causing direct harm because I know people only recover when they are truly ready and have had enough. You try going up to an alcoholic and tell them not to drink, it will in most cases go in one ear and out the other. I do believe that prevention and education is the best course against the harms caused by pornography and the ease of access to it in todays world but sadly there are at least two generations of people that have already been severely affected by the narratives and ideals portrayed in the content they view.
     
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  10. Facundo93

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    You are agree. I watched transgendered person and gay porn, the thing is that I´m straight. The porn is a cave where you will find rubbish and trash that rot the mind. I wish you a lot of luck. Best Regards
     
  11. Society as a whole is in big trouble. Porn addiction and what comes from it is destroying the minds of millions and they cheer it on.
     
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  12. AtomicTango

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    This is why I dont ever bring up NoFap IRL, because I know people wouldnt get it and the end result would be people thinking I'm a weirdo. Ultimately though I do NoFap for my own well being so anyone who thinks its wrong to practice it can get stuffed IMO.
     
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  13. AtomicTango

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    I checked the site "Empty Closets" for the sake of researching what they thought about NoFap and things like it. What I read would be hillarious if it wasnt so potentially damaging to vulnerable people. There were countless threads about people asking for advice with HOCD and 9/10 the solution given by these scholars amounted to "Oh just try some dick I'm sure you'll like it, youre just in denial". I'm not trying to disparage gay people here but what kind of shitty advice is that?!
     
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  14. It's a little amusing that they would consider us weird for trying to save our sanity and become more healthy people. When a sick society calls you weird that can only mean you're moving in the right direction.
     
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  15. It saddens me that people with those issues are going to places like that to seek help. I have no issues with gay people because I do believe some people are just gay and that's that. The people with HOCD are more than likely not gay or bi but instead have had their minds twisted from years of porn and ever escalating material. I won't lie, for a long time I thought I was bisexual but after much reflection I don't believe that to be the case. I noticed those thoughts and me questioning myself only happened after I was deep into my PMO addiction. When I was a young teen I NEVER had any interest in guys in any way, I was girl crazy. I was 100% straight without question.

    So I posed this question to myself: "What turned you on before porn?" By answering this honestly I was able to determine that I was indeed straight and my fetishes were created by the porn.
     
  16. Steve1453

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  17. noonoon

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    Nailed it.
     
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  18. Steve1453

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    Yes, I think you are right about porn creating fetishes. Like you, I had no fetishes when I was a teenager, but since getting hooked on porn I've acquired a large collection of them - black booty, asians, rimming, dildos etc. - and they have all been implanted in my brain by porn.
     
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  19. noonoon

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    In a generation psychologists will catch up to what we already know (essentially what you've outlined above). For now, unfortunately, academia is very reluctant/afraid to consider that ANY sexual dysfunction might lead to homosexuality or transgenderism, etc. It's all very political. Imagine the backlash to a professor that suggested porn addiction might lead to homosexual behavior?! Ha! He'd be crucified.
    Why will it take a generation? Because enough people need to: 1st - go through this evil, and 2nd - sober up and, 3rd - tell the tale of it truthfully. This takes time. Already forums like this are setting the foundation stones.
     
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  20. MonkeyPuzzle

    MonkeyPuzzle Fapstronaut

    I absolutely agree, porn is creating all these weird fetishes in people today that only existed in a tiny segment of the population before, and that was usually due to unusual circumstances or abuse. Porn is basically recreating these unusual behaviours in the minds of the masses and totally wrecking the normal healthy sexuality of young people and damaging their future happiness.
     

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