Need some advice on approaching this woman...

I've been in your situation a few times and unfortunately did absolutely nothing. You can do the same, or you can take the risk. My advice would be to take the risk. You can get over rejection rather quickly, but regret is permanent. The most successful people face a lot of rejection, but have few regrets. May sound generic, but it's true. Visualize yourself making a successful approach and then actualize. Let us know how it goes and good luck

 

I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself, and this makes every interaction a struggle. Remember the objective is to talk about anything. You can go and ask her about something like an event nearby or where does she buy her clothes.. it can be about anything. I used to think that in order to hit on a girl you had to say a magical series of things in order to get her attention but if you just talk about something you're passionate about o something you're interested in that's enough.
don't get ahead of yourself, the objective is to talk not fuck her. porn gives us a very twisted idea of how these interactions work. Maybe you can try talking with someone else instead of her first until you relax about the whole thing.

 

Take the risk, talk to her, who knows she might be the person that stops you from relapsing when the urges wont stop. Good luck and Godspeed.

 

Try to approach her while she's leaving so it isn't awkward. Since she sees you regularly she won't be caught off guard completely. Just have a normal conversation with her whats the worst that can happen? oh you might have to go to a different gym jk

 

The first step is to realize you are not your cousins or friends and you should never want be someone else or make comparisons to others that just leads to suffering and mental anguish take baby steps I still try to avoid taking to some women or very shy at some points but I'm better than I ever was and geting better each day and if you are coming from a place of fear you are going to project that same fear no one is going to make you happy but yourselves so each day try to get better and be detached from outcomes and live in the present moment anything else is just your mind unconsciously feeding of thoughts of the past and or future thinking too much is a curse

 

It's the honest truth brother those people have mindsets of abundance and are fufilling their inner purpose by facing rejection and being detached from it and just living in the moment and appreciating your journey each and every day that is being successful just being grateful and living that is our true selves free of thought and outcomes just being one with ourselves and god that's where true connection manifests

 

Hey I think I've seen you here before my name's x what's your name? Hey x you seem cool. So how long have you been going to this gym? Do you like it? Etc. Etc. Work your way towards hey x we should go out sometime. So x I was wondering if you might want to hang out sometime. You could write your phone down beforehand and hand it to her and say you should call me sometime. You might have to come up with clever responses on the spot but just relax and be yourself. Seem genuinely interested. It's not about what you say but how you say it. It's really hard but honestly not much is going to happen if you don't take control and initiate interaction. It doesn't matter if you mess up. She's probably just as nervous as you. Good luck i believe in you.

 

Tell us how it goes. You have nothing to lose

 

I still haven't opened a talk to a stranger intentionally.
Funny enough the last time I was looking at magnets in a bar and commented on them, and the girl there responded and we talked.
Funny enough, she was the first to ask of my name (good sign).

So there is the trick - make comments and questions about the things around you to start your conversation. And then grow the conversation into something interesting and funny in order it develops, otherwise it will get dull. Associations game can help you to jump into the next topic.

Goodluck with the girl.

 

Same bro I still have that problem but now I know thinking is worst possible thing to do lol