PMO

Hi Danny! Thanks for sharing your story. I also had a girlfriend when I was 19 who said she had never masturbated. When I told her that I do, she was shocked and "forced" me to go to the priest for confession. As you might imagine, the relationship didn't last. Now I have been married to a wonderful woman for over 22 years. If I could love her more I am sure my heart would explode. When we were dating and I told her that I masturbated, she was OK with it and said that she had also a few times. After ten years of marriage I told her my darkest secret: that I also felt strongly attracted to men. After she was sure I loved her nevertheless, she accepted that in me too. A few years ago I told her that I still masturbate frequently, because I need more sex than we have together. Although she doesn't find the situation perfect, she accepted that in me too. So, if someone really loves you, they will accept you as you are and love who you are - a PMO addict - and not someone who they would like you to be or become.
Good luck!

 

Hi Danny,
I can't really give you an answer for you, because everyone is different. I can just tell you about myself. I have tried uncountable times to reduce, as opposed to quit, jerking off. For me it just never works: I end up increasing again. The problem is, I just love the feeling of jerking off too much, I mean not just the orgasm, I suppose like someone who smokes loves the feeling of the cigarette between their fingers, on their lips, the smoke going into their lungs. So for me I figure I have to quit altogether, just as a smoker must quit altogether. Because like the smoker, although I am sure I will always love the feeling of jerking off and will miss it now that I've decided to stop, I love life more. I have been depressed and anxious since my early teens and I am 100% sure it is linked to the masturbation. This has totally fucked up my life: I was brilliant at school and at university, but depression and anxiety slowly but surely led to my current situation: unemployed and no fucking self-confidence to try to find a job. So I will give up something I love for something I love much more: my life.
As for your girlfriend, my wife also doesn't want sex as often as I do. But that is because I have always gone about it the wrong way - I basically just let her know I am horny. But that doesn't get her horny enough. What always works is if I first give her my undivided attention, when she gets home, you know: "Hi Honey, I'm glad you're home, I've really missed you" ... big romantic kiss ... "How was your day?" ... really listen and be interested ... help making the dinner ... "You are so beautiful, I love you so much" ... kiss her on her lips, then her neck ... "Aah, you smell so great" ... Usually she will take it from here. Don't use exactly what I've written here - it should be true and authentic. What I'm trying to say is practice being patient for the sex and show her first how much you truly care for and love her. Most girls need that first.
You say you have ED. After starting to use porn regularly, I started having problems getting and keeping a hard erection and my dick has become kind of insensitive/numb, so that I take forever now to cumm with my wife, partly because of the numbness and partly because my dick is too soft so that her pussy feels too wide. Sometimes I can't cumm at all. This didn't happen when I only used to jack off (sometimes every day) but didn't use porn.
I hope this helps.
David

 

Hi Danny ! I can feel the pain you must have been going through. At first, quit PMO in any medium. As sex with real woman is okay to do with ejaculation. ED at early age is a temporary situation and just a few days of non PMO, you can feel the horniness returning back even if you do not watch porn. Keep constant cuddling and foreplays with your girl during these days. Please note that repeated failure to erect your dick can be shameful at these early days and affect your confidence, so do not try for intercourse atleast a week and keep only cuddling, kissing, touching etc.
I tried the above and it brought fantastic results to me within 8-10 days. Try it and write back to us your experience. Good luck.