[21-CHALLENGE] THE TWENTY ONE DAYS CHALLENGE !

Seriously thats what is affecting a lot of other members as well.... need some tips from the experienced members to counter this .... plz guys

 

Day 12! It's getting easier to give yourself an excuse not to PMO.

 

Day 10. Thank you everyone.

 

Today I'm back to day 0...
I woke up in the middle of the night and had a very hard time sleeping again, my mind was tired, and when the desire to M came, I just did.
I have to be more careful of these situations next time.

 

if I've learned anything, it's that edging is a no go! Whatever happens, that must not be done. It can be used to kill the "fever" a bit but I think that's just temptation at its worst... I've been trying to replace my urges with something else. I do a set of 10 push ups every time as punishment/discipline. It builds strength both physically and mentally. While yeah, lately I have been relapsing because of extreme stress from school I'm not gonna' give up! neither should you!

 

Also! Never forget you're not alone here! This is something we're ALL trying to combat! In the end, we go to "P" because of the rush/shot of dopamine it gives us. Excercise in small but intense amounts will give you that same rush! Cold showers, vitamins, action-based video games, meditation. All of these things will be able to subdue those urges.

 

Day 1 : done

 

Well, you can't prevent your mind from thinking. But you can watch the thoughts without becoming invested in them. Often with urges we try to fight the thoughts - but that doesn't work! For example if I told you: "whatever you do, don't think of a banana!" You cannot prevent yourself from thinking about a banana. Therefore you shouldn't fight the urges in this way. Try something like :"ok, I have this thought about a banana. Cool. I wonder what the next thought will be.".. So you just let it be and stop giving it power by trying to resist it. Instead you can distract yourself by doing something positive. Go for a walk. Do a little working out. Take a cold shower.
Distracting yourself by using the body is the best way to put focus somewhere else.
Generally, the urges only last for a few minutes, unless you obsess about them (making it your whole life mission to stop thinking of bananas will only lead to more banana thoughts).

Also, having some pre-made plans set up for emergency situations. So you have already decided what to do when you suddenly get a strong urge. In these situations there is no time to think and decide what to do. So it is very important to have contingency plans ready. So that when the time comes, you know what to do and you can just go do it.

Remember that pmo is more like an instinct than a conscious choice. So until you start teaching your instincts new ways of living, it's important to avoid the known triggers and plan ahead.

 

Sorry, but punishment is never going to work in the long run. You simply cannot strong arm your way through this. You have to love and accept yourself for what you are. Before you accept something, you cannot change it. You must accept the desire as a part of yourself, and work with it not against it. Working against it will only give it more power and you will probably end up relapsing. So when you do your push-ups, think about it this way : "I'm doing something positive and healthy because I love myself". If you make it a punishment you will only make your new life improvements a chore and not a positive thing, and then it won't work.. Just my two cents.

 

Dude, I don't want to rain on your parade, but edging counts as masterbation. You are sitting playing with your dick, that is masterbation right there! Edging is actually very bad for your reboot. It stops it! Look it up over at yourbrainonporn.com
Looking at P is another thing. Stop doing it! You want to stop, right? Your counter says without porn and masterbation. So this, what you just admitted counts as relapsing.

Sorry to be tough with you my friend. But you have to know what you are doing here. Accepting P and M like this and you will never reboot...!
Reset and get back in the fight. You will feel more manly and powerful once you resolve to stop looking at P of any kind and stop touching your dick when not washing or peeing

 

Day 7 coming up. This part of the week is easier for me. Isn't it interesting how some settings and circumstances automatically trigger desires? The brain has an amazing capacity to remember details we aren't even consciously aware of.

 

Day 17

 

Day 19, check in...

 

Day 20 is done!

 

Day 17 Won! I'm gaining confidence in myself that I'm in control against my urges and I know God is always there for me.

 

9 days clean from P, M, O and moving on to double digits!!! Am I doing it right?!

 

Well guys, i am over here, my next step is 30 days challenge!

 

Day 9 done now on day 10 of this 21 day challenge.._/\_ _/\_
With this completed a no "M" streak of 30 days....( though time n again still feel very weak against these urges )
Nxt personal goal is a no " P.E.M. " for next 30 days.... _/\_ _/\_

 

Day 16/21. Check in.

 

Day 3/21 Done