Men's Dating and Relationships thread

A thread for men to share their thoughts and advisements on dating and relationships.

I started dating very late at 25yrs old. I've had 5 separate gfs in 3 years time. One of them a single mom.

The 1st 3 I met online and the last two I met in real life at a store and at the mall.

It's BAD to rush into anything here. We must find someone who shares our beliefs and interests. Otherwise it's better to be single.

When men understand their natural roles women want to support them. Men mostly make the 1st move because women have basically unlimited options these days and will "swipe left" if we don't because guys are always coming on to them.

Unless you are a "Chad". Top 10-20% very, very handsome men. These are the PHEW men who are always getting sexual and flirtatious attention from women. Literally no matter what they do. I'm no Chad and most men aren't.

Yet all men are epic dreamers and explorers. We want to know everything and how to do everything. We learn our limits in time but we always have that epic impulse.

Women think and feel much more locally. They do not have that same impulse. Instead they think much more practically in a day to day way. It seems cold and unfeeling to inexperienced men but it's totally fair.

Women naturally enjoy the before mentioned qualities in most men but not in a sexual way. Especially not at first. They just find it entertaining. They really like when men don't bore them.

This is hard for men to understand. It often makes men want to cheat (I've done this).

They will ignore men who have no personal goals and dreams and few prospects.

When a man gets enough skills and social networks to daily chase his epic dream that's when he is meant to reach out and invite a woman he wants to enjoy the brilliant spectacle of his epic dream with

 

That's great Hitto. It really is.

Your fire, that passion to learn, is the most reliable tool any man ever had and ever will.

We should always keep it above everything.

 

Jimmy R I hear you man. I can only imagine what a search for serious monogamy could be like for a young man like yourself.

I used to deal with a woman who had a lot of gay male friends. Her best friend and room mate was a nice guy with a really protective/mean dog lol. He could really cook.

My area has a large LGBT population relative to the rest of the nation yet I've only heard people talk seriously about concerns of men in the gay community in places like churches or from the TV.

I believe my blindness here is really enormous and I want to wish you well without offering opinions or advice that would be completely wrong or harmful.

I believe there's a lot about your struggle that should be heard and read directly from men like yourself and not dismissed. One of the tragic things I've heard about is the suicide rate among YOUNG men with same sex attraction. There must be obvious, and not so obvious cultural reasons for this.

Best wishes to you.