A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

Today is day 1 of 4

 

That's a two sided coin, my man. On one hand, reaching a point where you crave real sex rather than porn is a marker that you're making some great progress. ON THE OTHER HAND (caps because this is serious), hooking up with people regularly is arguably far worse than pmo, just because it's the same emotionless, objectifying, mindless addiction, just a lot risker than before. Stay safe, and fight on.

 

Oh, and do NOT watch P. P will lead to edging, edging will lead to MO, and that will lead to a full relapse. You need to learn to hate the stuff. Hate it for using and abusing the women you love so much, hate it for taking advantage of your brain, hate it for taking years away from your life, from stealing your confidence and good looks and your very soul. You will not find success quitting PMO if you still do any of those things. Stay strong.

 

Success! Day 7/7 complete! Next target double digits.

 

17 days so far the cloud in my head is beginning to clear and I feel very good.

 

Day 11 of 31.
Energy levels rising. Still hard to get out of bed.
I'm having these weird, inconsistent realisations. Like maybe every other day, I will let go of the stress and feel positive. I will relax and smile and feel good, and not worry. It is a great feeling of relief. But then after a few hours, maybe, the stress and worry and fear and anxiety will creep back on me. Then I will feel bad for another day or two.
Does anyone have any experience with this? @DerNeuMann @Deth

 

All the thoughts you have about women and sex and having a real life, I can really relate to that. I think all of us here can. It sucks to feel that.

But you see, it's coming from a place of anxiety inside us. A fear that is driven worse and worse by watching porn. Porn will make these thoughts come out every time. It will make you feel inadequate. You have to stop watching P. It is worse than fapping!!!

Watching P will make you worry about everything sex related. You have to realise that the porn industry is preying on your anxiety and keeping you down in low self esteem. This is how it works and they know it. They want to keep you addicted, my friend.

Go to yourbrainonporn.com and educate yourself, it will change a lot of things for you. Knowledge is key!

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A healthy mind does not worry about sex. You see, sex and relationships are things that just happen. In order for them to happen, we have to be in a position where we are not obsessed about them. We have to forget about sex and relationships. Then they will show up unexpectedly.

But if we hunt them, with a determination and desire, then it will not feel right. It will feel inadequate again. Because then it is the same as fapping.
To have real, meaningful relationships, we have to let go of the control, of the desires, thoughts and fantasies. We have to be living in the real world, right here, right now.

 

Yessss! Good job! Keep going. Let us know what is going on. If you experience sudden flatline or hard times, then shout here, we will encourage you.

 

Hey man, a broken heart is the worst. One takes it all out on oneself. Blaming oneself for whatever small random thing.

Did you read my reply to you a few pages back?

I think you could really benefit from splitting things up mentally.
Try it this way: This is one thing
This is another thing
There is probably more than one relation between to two things. Try to put into words the many different ways that these two things can be related. Maybe you will find out something that makes thing easier to bear. Maybe you find out there is another link in the chain bewtween loving her and hating yourself

 

Thanks for the advice I've been there and now it feels good to be back the last time I feel off the wagon was on day 28 now I'm going strong I wanna go past that now more than ever. Began 2018 on a high note and wanna end it on an even higher note. Shalom.