delayed ejaculation cured, social anxiety cured

thanks for sharing your story. i will do well to remember next time i feeling to slip up. no man is an island.
one step at a time. your story will help me get my life back.

 

Dude, hope is all that’s radiating from ya. I ideintify with the “sensation” or m-symptom of numbness. How did that get better for you? Did it feel more like a natural turn on instead of.... having to rubbing myself raw till I climax ....?

 

Congrats dude. But can you tell me how long you went nofap and how old you are. Also how many years were you into porn? Also tell us about the approximate number of relapses..

 

That's great news man . Good for you. I have no idea if I can O with another girl for a long time now. No gf, and getting one in India isn't easy, especially at my age of 30.

 

Brad Pitt mode activate, congrats man

 

Congrats, man. Keep it up, never look back. And you are absolutely right, porn turns men into docile creatures. You're a mere spectator and not an active participant, toxic toxic stuff indeed.

 

I am so glade that you have cured your issue through NOFAP community and it's educational material.good luck mate.

 

I am so glade that you have cured your issue through NOFAP community and it's educational material.good luck mate.

 

Trust me, if this were any other country than India or some Arabic countries I wouldn't hesitate to do this for one second. It's because while talking to random girls in the public is a common phenomenon in general, in western countries, NO girls in our country respond to a random guy. They only talk if they're remotely related to them. Eg, if they're working in the same place / same office. Even if you were shopping and you were nearby and told them "Nice choice", they'd just smile and say "Thanks", and be on their way. It's a stigma here, that talking to random guys in public makes them a "slut". Even the most good looking dudes with their muscular gym bodies have 'premium' tinder accounts to try and talk to new girls. There are pubs / bars, but the people who come there are always accompanied by their guys / girls.

Long story short, approaching random girls in public is a no-no in my country. It's not about the caste system as much these days, that sorta thing is passe. Atleast in the world of befriending a girl. But they NEED to be familiar with you in one way or the other. I'm currently unemployed and looking for a job. But once I get a job, I'd go talk to the girls working with me sure, no problem, but I simply can't approach random girls here. It's just because literally noone else here in this country does it, that the girls find it a stigma to respond to strangers.

Another problem is, since I'm 30, even 'befriending' a girl at work is hard. Because either 1. They're married (indians marry in their 20's 95% of the time). 2. If not, they're only befriending guys of their age or slightly above their age. So all this is a big problem for me in the dating world.

Also last but not least, I'm in love with a girl, who just so happened to be single @28, and I 'kind of' had sex with her 6 months ago. I've been friends with her for 12 years, and I knew her from a social networking site, which was all the rage 12 years ago. That's when I realized I had PIED and that's why I"m here. Problem is, we're not talking for a while for a few reasons, but I'm sure she'll be back. And I'm doing noFap for her, so that when and if she came back, I'd be ready for her.

 

I always tought in India your parents will choose your future girlfriend in excange for an Elephant or something.(no offense)

 

I don't think moving to another country would be necessary. Things are 'cooler' in some urban parts of North India. I'd have better luck there for sex comparatively there, but as for marriages, yeah, it's gonna be hard, because 'arranged marriage' is a real thing in our country, be it North / South India. As for the girl, I've been friends with her for 11 years. Only last year we got talking about what if we had sex, and things escalated and now it's complicated our relationship which is why she isn't talking right now. But I know she'd be back in a few months, because we've had a few fights before too , where we'd go 'afk' for a few months and then cozy up to each other after a while. And it's not just about me getting laid, I actually love her now, so I'd let her know my position when she's back.

 

You're right for the most part except the 'elephants'. You think elephants are a common pet here like dogs / cats? You only find elephants in *some* temples, because it's considered a sacred animal. You are right about arranged marriages and the 'dowry' system, where the girl's side offers some money or a gift to the boy's side. But it's not an universal rule. It was an old tradition, which is still relatively common now, but a lot of people don't do that anymore, especially if it's a 'love marriage'.

 

I am so glad to have come across this thread. I'm 33 and have suffered from What I know truly believe is porn induced DE and performance issues my entire sexual adult life. My very first experience with vaginal sex was at age 17, and it did not end in orgasm. It left me with *excrutiating* blue balls that I believe to have been the cause of physical damage (varicocele). Since then, ive had similar performance issues on following encounters on top of newly acquired performance anxiety stemming from not finishing my first time. Things seemed to have taken a turn about 5 or so years ago when I got into a serious relationship and was finally able to finish somewhat consistently but after the break up 2 years ago, finishing was a hit or miss (mostly miss). Now it's messing with my head again I'm sure and I'm back to not being able to complete, and even not feeling aroused enough (which has made it hard to get or maintain an erection). I had been watching porn and masturbating for a very long time, and I tenacity of the porn having increased to real hardcore stuff and different genres to where I wasn't satisfied with natural sex anymore. I've even gotten hookers and been involved with dom's. I am really hoping all the positive reviews I've read from nofap will help me finally rewrite my brain.