Question about second month and beyond

@Unhooked, you and I have been using porn for a very long time, you about 40 years and me about 35 (give or take). People on these forums talk of rebooting, and the day count that gets used is 90 days (or 180 if you need more). This has not been my experience. I think I am an addict, I do not believe in a reboot. I might be wrong, @James232 estimated that to reboot you need 2 months for every year of porn use. If that's correct I will have rebooted after 2,131 days, so I only have 1,628 to go! But seriously I think I am an addict. @2525 is right, it does get easier, but that seems largely because we get better at being porn free: we avoid the traps, we substitute good habits, we stop hurting our wives, ... Back at the end of January I hit a very bad patch. I did not cave in, I stayed porn free, but it was close. That started on Day 458.

(N.B. I was going to say "look at my journal posts from Day 48 and the next on Day 55 will give you some idea of the roller-coaster you are in for", but I see this is an old thread and you are already past the 100 days mark.)

One more thing I will say is that the support, encouragement, and challenge from people here has made all the difference to me.

Good luck.

 

When i quit drinking i got a tattoo "NFD", it stands for "no first drink". If i choose to have a single drink it will bring that addiction back to life. Same with this addiction. One pic, 10 seconds of video, or a hundred other things can bring that addiction back to life. I do believe in the reboot process as thats basically tge kind of treatment i went through to stop drinking. There is no set time frame for this process. Everyone is different.

I would suggest you look up PAWS as it will shine some light on post addiction life.

 

Just take it one day at a time.

 

Hi guys im just a mere newbie here, sorry to hijack the thread but id like the benefit of your experience.... Im just 10 days in to hopefully a 90 day reboot. Last night i was climbing the walls, tonight im chilled and calm. Ive got pied and deathgrip bad. What can i expect to come and are you all back to normal now?

 

Most of us are still in the process, some are done and you can read out them in success stories. Im some where around 6 weeks in at this point. So far im having semi-regular morning wood, more vivid erotic dreams and no brain fog. I have the thought that im horney but no physical responce to it yet.

 

Wow 6 weeks nice one. I can no longer get hard for women in the flesh. Its fucked me. Ive got faith in the process

 

Lol thanks pal keep going

 

It takes more than 90,180,365 days for your brains fluctuated chemicals, due to PMO, to reach an equilibrium. The minimum amount of time (PM abstinence) that is required for the "average" person to reach that "healed" stage is two years MINIMUM.

 

I would say that the best thing to be aware of is to not get too confident now that you have passed the 30 day mark. Being too confident could lead to a relapse. Remember, always be vigilant!