How can I reach 100 days? It's impossible to think about it.

Here’s the secret: Practice. I’ve failed hundreds of times, but EVERY time u get up and try again is a victory.

This battle is hard. The first twenty days is crazy hard. I cried like s baby at times. I thought of getting scratched up lenses so I couldn’t lust after the women I saw walking on the street. I went to a 12 step group for sex addicts. I put blockers on my computers and established healthy habits. I learned to deal with stress in a healthier way rather than relying on pmo. I begged God to relieve me of this burden. I prayed, and prayed and prayed.
It’s a journey. We have years of bad habits to unwind from.

Are you ready to face your demons? Are you ready to fight? For pain? Cause that is what it takes. Toughness and perseverance. Stop lust. Stop fantasy. Embrace real life. It hurts.

But, the compulsive urges stop. The feeling like you’re going to die if you don’t pmo goes away. And then, once you break free of the pmo chains, you discover all the other little chains that drove u to pmo in the first place. That’s where the real work begins.

 

You don't have to jump into hard mode straightaway if you feel like it is too hard for you. Go normal mode and use it as motivation to get into a relationship. During my 90 days streak 2 years ago, I have met my girlfriend and if I kept PMOing, I don't think I would have the motivation to speak with her.

 

i don't have an answer to your question but i think noone can have. i noticed this dependece is implanted in my life as an habit, the moments where i am most tempterd is between 2 and 4 p.m. i implanted by this way in my life because in the last years those were the moments where i was alone so i could take advantage by the situation. in those hours i try to look for something is pleasant even if everything could never be as pleasant as pmo. i could do push ups, but even if they are nice, let have a beautiful body are difficult to apply when i am tempted. so reading, it is wonderful but in that moment is difficult. so i found something simple i could do in those hours and i found to have a walk in the park near my house, to be in nature was very easy and was so pleasant that i didn't need pmo at that time. it is a solution ? i don't know, you have to find something to do when you are tempted strongly but it should be easy and enjoyable to do

 

I went 2 weeks once by promising myself. But I get a wet dream once a week when i don't do the thing

 

Nothing you can do about wet dreams. Just keep at it.

 

Well said

 

I am on my 2 weeks plus and from a 7 year constant fapping. Its very hard, my secret is cutting food down since it tricked me to be loosing calories. I havent blocked any internet as long as i am not opening them.
ITS HARDER WHEN you think you can call someone and do stuff then remember nofap means no orgasm at all. So you just wait

 

What is it with 100 day time mark? What will it bring you when you reach it? You should be aiming to be PMO free for life. 100 days will be just one milestone on your path to better life. I've done 90 days hard mode (no sex, no porn/orgasm) three times, nearing 100 mark now, but I don't consider myself a non addict. You have to say to yourself I'm done with porn and be done with it. There's no magic pill, just your will to resist temptations. You'll probably get sick, depressed, anxious on your way to recovery, your mind will play tricks on you big time... You can feel miserable all you want, the only thing you have to do is not to watch porn and not to masturbate. It's a simple choice, your choice, either you do it or you don't. Do aerobic exercise on daily basis, no matter what. You will develop discipline and will power to fight temptations when they arise, plus get daily dopamine fix, so your cravings will not be so bad. Remember, we're here to learn how to live again, not to achieve 30, 60, 90 days goal. Such mindset will only lead you to relapse big time, after your time goal is achieved. Believe me, I've been there, done that.

 

Yeah, I could never imagine that as well and I had crazy urges for sure.
But I feel like I've finally found an approach working for me:
Don't count the days (ok, just write down, when you started, lets say for statistical purposes ...)
And don't fight the urges.

That's ofc only a part of the process.
You wanted an essay, here is a bit more:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...op-smoking-applying-the-method-to-pmo.155008/
A whole book - for free. It flips everything you know about the addiction and tells you the correct mindset to quit.
After you understand and internalize it and makes it just easy to quit WITHOUT willpower.

Agree

Don't agree here. I tried willpower, didn't work for me. Drained only ALL my energy and made me miserable after to catastrophic binge relapse.

I know how you feel.
But ...
you said it yourself ... it's only temporarily.
And this (fake) relief lasts for shorter and shorter amounts of time, before your depression&anxiety kicks in again, right ?
And you know yourself, antidepressants are bad for you in the long run, and probably are addictive.

Read the book, it has several chapters on that topic.

Probably not, but this book get's damn close

 

Then try some mild tranquilizer, e.g. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valeriana extracts. I tried it recently and it was quite enjoyable. I could sleep really well and depending on the dose you also can better concentrate as it doesn't make you sleepy.

I know, this is not a good timing to start the book. Just finish your exams, MO as much as you want, or fight with willpower agaist it - either way, you know you'll be drained of your energy.

After you read the book, you'll have an alternative.