STOP PORN NOW !

Truth has been spoken. Good motivational post, thank you for this one. We have to stay strong!

 

Very hard words! But they help us to be strong!

 

wow, this post is so true !! It motivates me !! Thanks

 

Well done on getting to 94 days! getting over the 90 day mark is often cited as being an important milestone with any type of addiction recovery. I agree that porn is a spring board and catalyst for even more dangerous behaviours it's something that has actually been known for a few decades. I read somewhere that the FBI find pornographic material in many crime scenes and residencies of those convicted of serious crimes, seems to be an 'interest' generally amongst those sections of society. I was also a heavy cocaine user when i was at my worst with porn addiction and I can tell you both go together like strawberies and cream. When i was doing my 12 step programme for my drug abuse, whenever there wasn't any females present, often the subject of porn came up and suddenly rooms full of men started admitting they also had problems with porn, it was often laughed away but i knew there was people in there crying out for help.

People still struggle to talk openly about porn and even more so the dangers associated with it, to the point where most are guilty of burrying their head in the sand and not wanting to talk about it. When porn is spoken about openly in mainstream media it's often with a tongue in cheek attitude or backwards advice that 'a bit of porn can spice up your sex life' or 'it will help you find your sexuality' both are lies. For a lot of people porn drives a wedge between them and their partners or they end up becomming so confused about their sexuality because they have seen every category of porn that exists they lose sight of who they are as a basic human being.

If you're not careful porn will take your soul and you will have to fight hard to get it back, so many people fall for it and so many people fall because of it.

 

This is one of the best post I've ever read. I read this all valuable words. Thank you so much!

 

I was impressed by the power of your words.

My addiction has lasted half of my life (13 years).
You are the living evidence it can last much longer.

Every time I did it recently, I felt so stupid in the end. You can't imagine.

Thanks a ton for your contribution! You just motivated me like hell!

 

Great post! My addiction has been with me for over 55 years. Now in the final stage of my life. I do have regrets for what may have been possible had I not had this addiction but "Thank God" I found NoFap and I am now well on my way to a truly wonderful retirement experience. I have lost over 50 lbs; 8" off my waist; all of blood levels are now well within the normal range and I have found my spiritual roots again. Best of all, my relationship with my wife is as good or better than it has ever been. I hate porn but almost everyday the addiction tries to lure me back. EVERY DAY! This is incredibly difficult but if I go back I lose and the addiction wins and I ain't gonna let that happen. Keep fighting and take responsibility. No matter how old you are make a decision to stop and do it today.

 

I have just relapsed and I feel like shit. Can somebody please give me some tips on how to stop masturbating and watching porn?

 

Dear Aadam Khan,
The only tip that comes to my mind is the following:

If you just relapsed, please know that the neuronal paths in your brain have just been reactivated, so it is still very "fresh".

So, my advice is not to say to yourself that you will quit forever, just to try to set a deadline of three days, for instance.
After that, your neuronal pathways will be have been starved a bit, and it will be easier for you to say no.

For me it works. But you know, it's been now three years that I am aware of my porn addiction. I can tell you that the motivation that will get your *ss out of this hell unfortunately doesn't come in one day. It's a slow process of comprehension.

I'm sorry to quote what told me once a catholic priest (if you are not a believer), but "if you do a sin again and again, it's because you still don't hate it enough".

So if you have some desire to stop now, it has some reasons.
Try to gather these reasons, to do a list of them. Maybe you'll even find some which you didn't think about before.

Look into your past. How your lust for porn comes maybe from external things, which might have made you suffer. How porn has prevented you from developing yourself, have success in what you like and be with people whom you love.

Do that and come back here to tell us about your impressions.
Have a good night, man.

TTMT

 

43 year addiction to PMO. I'm on the low end of "progress". I haven't been getting it done. Feeling sad but hopeful. Appreciate this thread.

 

Saltedpeter, congrats on so many days !! that is really good of you !!

 

@HumanBob nice quote but u know the problem is we in our age knew that all this is bad its not that we came to know now that it is bad ... that we are teaching our younger generation or the people who are elder then us on this nofap reddit are teaching us the same way that we are explaining here to the younger ... the porn and sex addiction is so strong that everyone man/women single or married are the victim or these two evils for ages.. those who repent or sideways soon are saved by the almight those who are not i guess are destroyed for ever.... adultery fornication masturbation are the same route cause of course it looks hot lusty but eveyone who is victim men/women pays the price of it no one runs away freely we may see that we are but actually we havnt....

 

Do you have a link for that?

I've seen this, about the dangers of intermittent binging:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/why-intermittent-use-long-abstinence-binges-addiction-risk - it doesn't mention that, though.

 

Interesting.

 

Very true words, I’ve been an addict for about 20 years, and the last 3 months with no PM, has made a huge impact in my life physically and mentally.

 

Today is going to be day 30 for me...I got interested when I was 12. I grew up on playboy/ Penthouse and graduated from there to VHS and now internet, I am 55 years old. I feel really good today!!!