Just moved in alone.. Any tips?

Exercise go for runs do something to replace your pmo addiction and go socialise with other people in the apartments so your not alone all the time.

Maybe getting a porn blocker will also be a good thing. Good luck.

 

You have to leave the apartment. Staying in the apartment alone is a trigger. So when you feel the urge you must leave. Leave to get food, go to your local Starbucks, go to the gym. The overall theme here is that you can't masturbate in these places.

 

Hi,

Living alone in an apartment or flat can take some getting used to,

Our brains tell us "wow I have all this privacy, I can do whatever I want and no-one knows!"

I believe this happens to everyone in the same situation,

Best advice I can share is what I did:

I started a log of all the days I PMO'd...

Create a note in your phone or even buy yourselves a physical notebook that you can write in,

Each time you PMO, log the date and time, and also how long you did it. Then what it was. E.g... PMO. Or if you edged. PM... etc

Example:

Friday 16th March 2018 - 20:00 - 20:30 PMO

Sunday 18th March 2018 - 22:00 - 23:00
PM - Streak = 2 Days

Wednesday 21st March 2018 - 19:45 - 20:30 PMO - Streak = 3 Days

When you PMO again, then add the streak...

Keeping a log really helps... You need to start becoming conscious of your habit... you want to slowly build up your streaks, 2 days, then try 3 days, then try 4 days, then try 7 days...

Remember to be kind to yourself, and celebrate your progression, we are all struggling with this affliction... it really does get easier with longer streaks...

 

I think you need more than one approach to this. I am in the same situation and thr conditions obviously make the opportunity for failure higher.

It's correct to be active and be away from home involved in activity. But you also need to have a plan for the urges and time spent alone.

I would recommend really evaluating why his is important for you. I am trying to do the same. Living alone means you have to be vigilant to complacency.

Regarding urges, are you able to identify and label them in the moment? This helped me in my last big streak. I could let them pass.

Good luck and keep going.

 

The cravings are tough, but you have to face them, it will hurt, your internal voice will tell you that PMO will ease the pain, but it won't, it will make it worse,

Porn Addiction is as powerful as Heroin Addiction, they both release huge amounts of Dopamine in the brain...

Buy this book on amazon or download the audiobook on audible/iBooks...
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-porn-e-book

It's a great resource to understanding what's going on in your brain...

Face the pain,

You need to completely reset your body and mind,

I'd recommend a Reboot, start with 7 Days...

I've already had a few cravings today myself, but when they came, I resisted, it hurt, it was painful... But I'm currently experiencing a flatline... If urges hurt, thats when you know your on the right track, the urges will go away after about 15 minutes... Then you will feel great! Just don't give in...!

Nothing in life is easy, embrace the pain, feel it in the body, understand its part of the recovery process, it's not purposed to be easy but it's so worth it!

 

'I think about the benefits of not giving in to the cravings, and then suddenly the other side kicks in, where I think about how good PMO feels, the images, their meaning, etc. All this makes it really difficult'

You gotta get there before this, so to speak. Once you are here you are going to struggle long term because you are setting this up for a battle each time, and what person ever wins every battle.

 

What I'm saying is that it is a lot easier once you have committed to abstain. You need awareness - If an urge comes, you can see what it is. You can let it be there and it will subside because youve already decided. If you let yourself get drawn in to the battle, your defences are worn down because it is a battle and will power alone isn't sustainable forever. Dont feed it. It's the worst thing we can do.

 

I was in the same situation as you. Now I try to meditate, pray, keep myself distracted with video games and do workouts 3-4 days a week

 

I remember moving into my own place. I think that it's safe to say that this is when my PMO addiction spiraled out of control. I suddenly had hours upon hours of privacy. This is when I introduced edging to my addiction, and could spend an entire day immersed in a sexual fantasy. Like they said above, it is important that you get yourself out of the house/flat. Too much alone time will eventually take its toll on you.

 

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