Marriage details

To be pretty graphic. What are the rules with a wife or significant other. Talking with the wife she and I can not handle a vow of not ever doing anything. What about foreplay. Like would we be able to play around both parties are present and willing. Just trying to find guide lines. She has even asked. We take as like said both parties present willing. But say fap without other is not ok. She is not into porn so that is not a issue

 

For say during foreplay would she be able to fap me or fap myself for her to be blunt. She likes it just not when she is not involved or when it' to porn or other stuff

 

Or would that be considered a relapes on fapping

 

For say during foreplay would she be able to fap me or fap myself for her to be blunt. She likes it just not when she is not involved or when it' to porn or other stuff. When with her would that be considered a relapse on fap

 

What if I did it in ront of her times before when foreplay I would myself to get her going even more.

 

Thanks you guys. For your help