I can’t do it anymore

Most of the normies will balk at this response, oh well.

Sounds like a vampiric entity got attached to you. These negative entities are fed by any activity that caters to carnal sins, ala greed, lust etc. They do not want you to recover because then you cease being a food source for them. This event is a catalytic potential to learn about the hidden spiritual side of porn addiction.

Like attracts like. What do you fear? What are you running from?

 

I know how you feel. Try getting outside and getting some fresh air when you have the urges. Get away from social media and just sit for a moment and face the urges right then and there.

 

You can do it but you can't if you try to do it alone. If you drop-out of what was working for you, it will stop working for you. Live in the solution. Live day to day porn free by actively engaging in activities that pursue that goal. Start or update your journal. Keep a counter, get an AP and use him _every day_. Keep it up, you'll get there.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

Write down the new trigger. Now you know it's a new trigger for you when you lay out in the sun. Always document every trigger/urge you have. Weather influences? Food? Mood? etc.. You get the idea.

 

There is more than one way to skin the cat of porn addiction. Here are some things I do:

- Attend SAA meetings (been 8 years now)
- Go out every Tuesday night with guys in the program to track our counters together and support each other.
- Group text guys every day "Happy Sober Monday", etc.
- Make phone calls
- Remove the browser on my phone, give an AP the code
- Install filtering software on my computer
- Write out a 30 days sobriety plan (this guy who does a podcast called "Porn Free Radio" is really great with practical tools. Episodes 94, 95, and 96, I _think_).

And here is the #1 thing that keeps me sober:

Help a newcomer. Encourage them on. Go to the newbies forum and welcome them. Tell them if it can work for me, it can work for you. Share your story. When I share my story with someone else, it becomes crystal clear to me why I am doing this. This is a disease of forgetting. I need to constantly remind myself.

If you want to stay sober, you gotta work the bejeezus out of it. It is hard and it requires effort. But you can do it. "Half measures" as they say in AA "ain't worth sh*t" (paraphrase)

Peace,
-Quinn

 

Even if you have an urge, you still have a choice.

Choose the rest of your life.

Because that is where you are. This thing fries your motivation to do anything in the rest of your life, and that effect gets stronger as you get older.

 

This may be an issue, too.

 

Agreed. I know you said you left because it wasn't working for you but that's the tail wagging the dog. There is no silver bullet for this problem that's going to do the work for you. You have to put your back into it. And if you do, and a particular tool isn't effective, find another.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

Maybe your circumstances have changed and you have lowered your guards when it came to triggers. You might need to re-identify your triggers and try to avoid them.
My triggers are loneliness, night time, seeing girls in skimpy shorts or trousers. So before I started NOFAP I had told myself I'll not stare at girls more than a second and I'll not turn around to at their back when I drive past or walk past them. I trade crypto and forex and I always find myself alone with my phone 24/7 mostly at night and sometimes it gets boring and that's when I relapse. So I decided to move to a friends' who also is a trader and explained to him what my problem is and he has promised to be my guardian for a few days.
I hope this helped. And always try to keep busy. Cooking is working for me.

 

Could you buy a diary and use it as a personal-motivator. I have one and it's great to look back on all the pages I have not PMO'd or had any resets. Think I read somewhere you have higher chances of achieving a goal if you write it down/keep a memo of it.