Wtf am I doing?

That's a representation of how you value yourself. Basically you don't value yourself so you look for value in having a hot girl. That's dangerous and is probably the void that PMO is helping to fill the pain of. That's what @Supra says when he talks about accepting yourself the way you are. Just say out loud "I'm me. I'm happy being me but I'm going to build a better me".

You say you're not depressed, anxious or lonely so what is PMO fixing for you? Stop looking at what other people have and focus on improving yourself. Everything else will fall into line after that (but it will take time).

 

QUOTE="SoloMan, post: 1468929, member: 217380"]PMO will definitely give me tools to improve my life. But I have to use them and that is what I am going to do.[/QUOTE]

I think you mean "No PMO" or "NoFap" - right?

 

I read some pickup artist stuff and not because I wanted casual sex but because I was interested in meeting women and didn't know how to do it. I used the 20second rule (I think it was that, maybe it was 6). If you saw a woman you wanted to talk to you had to do it in 6/20 seconds. I did this with a mate one night and it was great because you don't die. You realise that the anxiety of rejection is imaginary and it really doesn't matter. I got to the point where I could get numbers from women if I wanted and you just start caring a lot less and being more casual/relaxed.

So if you think you're wanting to work on that, then do it so that the goal is not to sleep with them but rather to talk with them. Rejection doesn't matter, some girls will be having a bad night, some will be bad people. It doesn't matter, you're trying to create the environment in which you can move forward with your life in a direction you want. I think you want to get on top of PMO first though, you really aren't the man you want to be if you can't control that and you won't find the woman you want if you're not there yet.

 

That's super important. I'm almost 40 and still working out issues in my life but as you undo things that have been holding you back, moving forward again is easier. You know you can do 13 days, which means you can do 20 too but you've identified that being distracted helps you in your nofap journey, so that's something to maybe organise on your next streak. Stay busy, focus on sleep.

 

Hey soloman bro, you remind me of myself. I think what you're doing is awesome. Why can't you get married like telling your parents so it doesn't matter about finding girls. Just an idea .

 

Like an arranged marriage or something by the help of your parents, just my opinion

 

Marriage is helpful for loneliness but doesn’t cure addictions like porn.
In my case, I won’t ever marry due to some medical conditions and I am fine with that, marriage and partner is not the most important thing in life, and it gets less important when you don’t want to reproduce, which is my case.

 

Marriage is a important part of life bro. Don't you want a family .

 

To find someone first you have to not want someone. This seems paradoxical but the point is that you have to feel comfortable in your own skin. If you have the ability to love yourself and be happy, then other people will have the same reasons to love you too. Focus on healing and feeling good about yourself, meeting the right life partner surely comes after this and not before.

 

c'mon man, you are a 27 yo virgin. Why don't you push yourself to the limit and try to make a good streak instead of remaining always the same?