New here... Male, 23, south african

Hi Cam. Welcome to nofap. My advice is keep going around the forums. There are lots of sections. One that might help would be to just go around the "New to Nofap" section and read as many posts as you can. Try to see what you have in common with other people's reasons for joining. Then make a comment like "Hi I'm new here too" and whatever you want to say so that you get to start meeting people here. A lot of people here address HOCD. I don't know if you have HOCD or actual attraction. I felt like in my addiction I started not knowing which gender I was attracted to but in my month of being clean I already got more clear that I like women and that was just my addiction and HOCD making me think I was another orientation. So I hope that gives you some hope. You can message me any time.

 

Im glad you are making a change in your life Cam ! Remove the urge to masturbation and you will open up new pathways in your life

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

 

Hi @Cam@23 . If you google "HOCD" you will find a list of links. Just look around a little. It stands for "homosexual-OCD" which involves homosexual thoughts but they are experienced as intrusive, rather than a part of who you are. Alot of people here aren't homosexual but they have HOCD. Including me but I wouldn't have known if I didn't find it here.

 

Hey @Cam@23 ,

I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship..

@TheGoldenEra
@I_can_and_I_will
@JackMcWaffles
@Mr.Imperfect
@Inqonyama
@Toughboy
@romlel
@LeoJohn
@Gray Wolf
@StarLightReboot
@Chriss27
@ludwig525
@hoping_cannon
@SteelshoT
@reystronaut
@2525


One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

@StarLightReboot - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/156764
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@JackMcWaffles - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/169456/
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@SaapKaBaap - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139761/
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@GoldSpirit - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147651/
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@Lazarus Shuttlesworth - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/53299/
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@Inqonyama - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/166981/
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@db001 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/130513/
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@progressiverockguy - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/172452/
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@julianstone - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146584/

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