How do girls check guys out?

This is a serious question/post. So throughout my nofap journey I've learned that I'm depressed sometimes aND I don't really like myself too much. Ive improved that aspect alot recently, the aspect of loving myself. I wanted a relationship with a girl, still do, bc I haven't had one in years. But first I needed to love myself before I love other people.

I do to an extent but am still working on loving and more imporantly respecting and accepting myself and my mistakes.

Now that got a little to real/deep, but check this out. So when guys check girls out MOST would check out their butt and whatnot. This is competely healthy if you have non pornographic wants to have sex. That's textbook biological, there's no argument.

Girls are no different. It's a biological need to have sex. To reproduce is the sole goal in life from both genders.

Here's my question. When they check guys out, what do they look at? Is it all muscles & body/facial feautures or do they check up dude's buldge? A real weird question but what's your experience?

I'm not self conscious about my size, the contrary actaully. But I'm a "grower" instead of a "shower", (but the avg flaccid size, I'm above it so idk). It's a strange thing, I think it's bc I'm really tall so it looks smaller with long legs but its not small at all, if that makes sense.

But the question is do girls look at those things. If they do (I presume they do) then I wouldn't care and nothing would change mentally. Just curious bc its biologically inevitable. In a non joking/ non strong-opinionated manner, reproduction is the single most important thing in this world. Not talking sex and getting orgasms and stuff / porn things, I am talking about reproduction. Creating offspring to move onward in the world to make the wored the world

 

Every man and woman is different, and thus each person looks for something that may or may not be the same. I look at the overall person including how they carry themselves as well as their personality, and so it's not any specific thing. I do know I have no interest in seeing a blokes buldge, while it doesn't "offend" or bother me when I notice as a dick is a dick, I just don't go looking for it.

 

Thsnks for your input! And right but doesn't a penis biologically "attract" you? Sorry if that's weird questioning, feel free not to answer. But philosophically speaking, if reproduction is life's goal, wouldn't biologically straight women be drawn towards men and his penis in general. I'm talking in the most basic sense of biological development, not in a sexual fashion.

 

I guess it depends on your sexuality and how you're into somebody, but a penis itself does not attract me no, and rather it's the person as a whole. If a person is a horrible human being but has a "perfect" dick I wouldn't be attracted in the slightest.

And honestly men are supposedly visual creatures, and we don't work the same way as you do. Usually I hear about women getting grossed out seeing a guys dick through their pants, so I don't know.

Plus I should hope there's more to life than just reproduction, there's nothing wrong with the desire to have kids or sex but we do have a choice now and aren't exactly primitive anymore. I should hope men are better than: "I see nice ass now I want sex". lol

 

Well my SO's dick is a turn on for me in bed but I wasn't strictly speaking that women find them gross in themselves, I said seeing it through their pants type of deal. I don't see how a vagina or penis is outright gross as it's part of the human body, but I guess for some reason it is for others.

 

That is not healthy! It is not healthy to view someone as a sex object!

 

You misunderstood the entire post

 

This is basically exactly what I would say as well. I don't believe I've ever checked out a mans "buldge." Maybe once or twice, but it's not an instinct at all. Most of the time it would be next to impossible to tell anything while they're clothed, so what would be the point? Also, I just have different priorities than some women might. Having a massive dong isn't a top quality I look for in a man.

It's not life's goal. There is much much more to life than that. I would rather have an amazing marriage with a sweet, funny kind, motivated, handsome man who has the same beliefs and views as me and the same desires and goals in life and likes to do the same things, than someone who has none of that but has a big dick. Hell, I would prefer the former even if he had no dick at all. It's far from being the top priority.

Also, just because someone has a big penis, doesn't necessarily mean their fertility is high. So if you're talking about reproduction being the priority (not just sexual pleasure), then dick size really doesn't tell you anything. I'm sure there are plenty of fat slobs out there with big penises. Doesn't mean their genes are ideal or healthy or that their fertility is strong.

 

No. The goal of life being reproduction and having a big penis are in NO way correlated, and I did not reflect that in my post that you misconstrued.

And yeah you can have a good husband, that's sick. But that's not the goal of life. The purpose of life is to create offspring to move forward in the world. Without offspring people will die out and the world would be no more.

Life is all about creating a perfect balance of chaos and order. Having and raising a kid in a good fashion is one of the very few things that do this. Having fun is all chaos, no order.

Honestly just read every part of the post before you blindly respond. Not to sound rude or anything but this isn't the first time. Really strange

 

What's the point of this thread if you're not talking about dick size? That's pretty much exactly what you're talking about, so I fail to see how I misunderstood anything. You basically said that if life is all about procreation, then girls should want to check out guys penises. I don't really see what the point of that would be, if it's not about size. You can't see any detail of a man's penis when they're wearing clothes, aside from maybe size, so that would be the only point in looking at their "bulges." And you yourself mentioned growing versus showing, which is all about size, so it's not like I just pulled that out of nowhere.

That's your opinion, and it's not for everybody. Obviously it's good for people to procreate, but not everyone sees that as their entire reason for living.

Again, just your opinion.

When did I claim that life is all about having fun?

I literally read every single comment in this thread, extensively. My response was in no way blind. If this isn't the first time people are misunderstanding you, then maybe you're not expressing yourself very clearly.

I'm not sure why you seem so frustrated with me in your response. I wasn't being rude, I was just answering your question from my perspective, as a female.

 

Yeah, this thread has absolutely nothing to do with dick size... how strange of me to think such a thing, I must be blind.

 

But to get back to the point, your main question is what do women look at in a man. I agree with Sarah: it depends on the woman. There's really no black or white answer to that question. Then I elaborated that for me, I don't care about a man's "bulge," because that's not important to me, and I explained why it's not important to me. I don't see what's wrong with anything I said. You asked for female perspective, and I answered.

 

@Castielle I'm not angry but I never made a connection between a big penis and high fertility. the post wasn't about penis size, I made it clear (at least I thought) I wasn't concerned with my penis size. I did describe the grower/shower to explain why I was asking the question.

The post was what do women check out when they are looking at guys? Its obvious different answers but I was asking people's experience. Guys would naturally check out women's butt and breasts. So my real question would be what do they check out? Muscles, the buldge (which according to you and sarah thats no), clothes, height, facial features, general self confidence, etc.

Thats all. But people misconstrued that and it's annoying. I use my words very deliberately and sometimes they get skipped over which is gonna happen and its fine.

Moving onto my "opinion".. that's fine that you don't agree w any of it. But I'm talking a genetic and philosophical basis. That's not the posts main point however. I have alot to say so I ramble, but it's importanot to look at things from all angles and degrees.

 

It's cool. I actually asked for everybodys perspective, not just a female one. Theres no black and white answer, that's why I asked perspectives

 

I would be at work and catch a coworker that I know stare at me for a second or two. It's like a glance. I can read it better now, either a quick smile for just being nice, a checking me out glare, then just we meet eye contact I smile and then they don't which means literally anything.