Help with girl I can't get over

I had a girl in my life once. She was dating me in LDR , but also she was checking out her department seniors/class mates , different batch-mates. One day I found out (after break up) that she was never actually into me. She was dating another guy from her class THE WHOLE TIME , and I was actually her Rebound guy. She used me to get over her first bf , and then she decided to dump me when she had her fill.
I went berserk . (yes I have anger issues and I was not the good bf because of this anger of mine) .
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so , after 2 years now , she has moved on. She is happy afa i know. I still think of her every day. I curse her , then I think - wait , if she suffers , does that make me happy? ans - NO.
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You see , The entire thing about love-relation-emotion is an internal thing. Its not She/He/others that hurt us , but we ourselves do. The fire of pain inside us , is fueled by our sole mind.
Take control of the mind , every other pain-emotion-heart break-anger-depression will go away. You have the fire burning , you also have the water supply present. You just have to take a grip of your mind , focus on your L I F E! Y O U R L I F E!!!
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Let the girl go. If she comes back , that means she has had her fill. Now she wants to use you again.
If she doesnt come back , that means she wasnt a good match for you either.
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Focus on your own life , run for the goal that you makes you cry when you think of it.
Girls will come . Trust me , better ones will come for you. They will love you with all their heart. You need to take a grip of your mind , thats it.

 

And stop texting her every now and then. Makes you look like a bitch

 

Do not text back or call back even if she does try to contact you.... Be strong.

 

First, quit giving her money! Smh

 

Good I read the whole story and well it seems like a complex thing, toxic relationships are often like that. It's good that you distance yourself as much possible from her.

By the way, never give your hard earn money to someone... most of the times people will try to find a way and suck all they can off you and well with time you'll come across a girl that wont do that.

 

These things will haunt you again in some odd times(in coming days). Only time will heal. Give it time. You will go through the pain, but at that time you should remember the time is healing.

 

I hope you are fine man. You don't need her my dude, focus on your own self development. For the love of God please don't text her, shit does indeed make you look like you are too clingy and well... weak. You seem to have a beautiful soul, don't let her use you.

Plenty of fish in the sea and I am sure you will find somebody that resonates with you. Until then, focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

Good luck and may fate smile upon you, friend!

 

That’s awesome bro!
I saw this was an older thread and I was reading it for the first time this morning. I was hoping you would respond since it just got bumped.

Toxic relationships like yours suck and they are so hard to tear yourself away from. Believe me, I have been in one. I think it took me over 6 months of trying to get to where you are now. Way to stay strong!

 

We're here for you mate! Go hard and strong! Don't let anything steer you off the path you've drawn for yourself, be everything that you can be and always have faith in yourself!

 

Alright man, I don't know your emotional state but it seems like you're very needy. Are there other girls that pay attention to you?

I feel like I've interacted with a girl that's similar to the one you're describing recently. The girl I met was really a 'user' at heart. She knew how to take advantage of men for their resources. I think sometimes she gave them sex but not all of the time. She was just really good at using men. It was like her thing. I feel like she got off on it, lol. Maybe a guy broke her heart in the past and she wanted to take revenge on the entire male species.

Anyways, if she is a girl like that, you have to first understand that she doesn't love you. She's just playing with your emotions. She knows how to fuck with your heart to get what she wants because she thinks your vulnerable. She'll fuck you for some booze and some cash. It doesn't matter to her. She's probably fucking lazy and doesn't want to work and wants a guy to give her everything.

Control your emotions and get away from her man. She doesn't sound good for you.

 

Stop being a bitch and letting her use you. She's walking all over you. Stand up for yourself and have some self-respect.