Are You Gay! Or Is The Porn Gay?

Only for @lolwut.

Joking aside you could be experiencing what is known as the coolidge effect. have you watched the 'yourbrainonporn' video?

 

Hi @Nightbynight! I was reading what you wrote, and it’s just something almost same I experienced and I would say, even experiencing now. I’m straight, I like women, I want to have family, the family with wife and kids. But at the same time, I tried a lot of porn, and found gay porn something what would also please me. I would hate myself after ***, I would be discussed of myself and just think that I make huge sin. But in the end, I know I prefere women. To be honest, NoFap for me is not only to stop watching porn, but also to stop watching what is confusing me.

 

im jn the sane postion where un rebooting snd i get off to feminine men and cant to women any ore . but when i think about it in mh mind and thoughts i hardkeh cant horny at all. but when i think about women i cant get horny at all. will this go away if i stip worrying ? becasue i love women in real life and horny but not men

 

This post basically read my mind! I've come here to not only stop my addiction, but get my head on straight in terms of my sexuality. Porn really screwed it up, and I've been unsure for years now. But I really wish more people understood that it isn't just gay/straight/bi and it's a spectrum. If everyone knew about this, there would be nothing holding me back from me coming out as.. me!

 

It's all fake brainwashing.... Women are addicted to lesbian porn, it warps your mind.

 

so im all good then ?

 

I agree there’s a spectrum of sexuality but we don’t need to feed the aspect we don’t want. Like the old Native American saying says:
Which ever wolf you feed becomes stronger.
There are virtues that counteract vices. Practice them. I believe the wolf that is opposite of vice is dilegence. Feed dilegence.

 

Argh! I just looked it up it’s not dilegence it’s Chastity. Even harder.

 

I'll call it dillegence since chastity reminds me too much of bdsm porn

 

Yep, just lay off the brainwashing material.

 

thanks!

 

What's in a label? society is obsessed with putting things into boxes so it can have a tick next to it on some beaurocratic piece of paper work. I think there is a spectrum and people are all over the place, it's also fluid for a lot of people. I see porn like going to a chinese take away, sometimes you fancy a bit of no. 24 and 45 but next time you might want to order a no. 37 and a 99, since porn has become so heavily commercialised and accessible the menu of what is available is vast and encompasses ALL aspects of human sexuality, the good bits and the bad bits.

 

Yeah but who would go to a Chinese restaurant if they knew all the food was poisoned? Like porn.
(In real life I get your gist.)

 

This is the same feeling I have! I watch things I would never believe I could like them. I hope NoFap helps me to understand myself

 

It will. You don’t even realize your understanding is happening until you pass through some F ups. Just pick up after each fail and carry on. You’ll end up in a better place. Some of my best understanding of myself come after my biggest fails.
Good luck. Stay on the path.

 

I often wonder if the reason there is so much more homosexuality, bisexuality, and asexuality these days compared to, say, 50 or more years ago is because there is so much more access to pornography. Everyone is really just so confused about what their sexuality.

I'm not saying that is the case for everyone, but I think that's why you see so much more of it.

 

I certainly think that’s part of it. Also the culture no longer has a clear idea of what manhood and womanhood are so growing up people go with the flow. There are no rites of passage into manhood in this culture anymore except maybe having sex.

 

Which is why sex is considered such an important thing anymore. Which makes porn more important as well. So the cycle continues on and on. Generation after generation.

 

Great post @Nightbynight!

I'm bisexual - in that I've had fulfilling relations with both sexes. However, my attraction levels were constantly changing, which made understanding who I was difficult. Porn was such a big confusing factor here because the more I indulged in straight/gay porn, the more I focussed on that sex in real life. I went through a big patch of time and I would be checking out every guys crotch while walking on the street - I was hypersexualised by porn and it was not good! It made me feel like a creep, which I guess I was.

Quitting PMO is slowly allowing me to reset and understand what I'm truly looking for, which is just to find a soul to love, not a body with a particular type of genitalia.