60 days and my world has changed for the better.

I have written the benefits one has when they quit porn and masturbation after 30 days. There are still the same when you quit 60 days, but there are more benefits as well.

Here are some you gain when you quit after 60 days:

1) More time: This is a benefit that starts day one when you quit. You have more time and energy when you are not wasting on porn and masturbation. It is time and energy you can use on reading books, working out, seeing friends, doing hobbies, anything that makes you a better person and a happier one too. And this benefit increases after 30 days, 60 days and more because your perception about life, your life situation and yourself changes as well.

2) Your perception of women changes: In the beginning, you will notice a slight increase in your testosterone level. Real women will really turn you on, especially during the summer time.This desire does not disappear when you quit fapping. To desire women is natural and there is nothing wrong with that. However , even though it is natural that beautiful women turn us on, we imagined them naked and want to have sex with them, be mindful of that thought but don't act out on it. Don't fantasize having sex with them, because that could lead back to P.M.O. Instead use that desire and energy to do something more creative.

And though women love sex as much as men, they don't want to be treated like a porn star. I have met many women who have had threesomes , slept with women out of curiosity, but do not expect they will want to have a threesome because they did it in the past. Plus lot of women don't like it when a guy ejaculates in their faces and a lot of them hate anal sex. Some of these women had ex boyfriends that were rough with them, because they got those ideas watching porn. Another reason for hating porn because it treats women like objects and influences men to mistreat women.

3) You are more mindful and aware of your surroundings: As I hit 60 days yesterday, I decided to spend the day in Old Québec city and read a book on mindfulness. It was a beautiful hot sunny day, with thousands of beautiful women from four corners of the world. Had I not joined NoFap with everything I learned, the first thing I would have done when I got back home, would have been to lock myself in the bathroom and jerk off because of those women. Instead I acknowledge the beauty and desire they stirred in me, but I did not act it out as I would have easily done in the past.. I think it is a great idea to read books on mindfulness , meditation and the philosophy of Buddhism , because when you go cold turkey from porn and masturbation, there are going to be times where you are going to have urges, feel stressed out and have triggers that will make you want to relapse. With mindfulness however, you will be conscious that you will have moments of lust, desire, anxiety, worries, some feelings of depression too. If you have those thoughts, acknowledge them without resigning . Example, let say you see a hot looking woman in real life that triggers sexual desires and makes you fantasize about her , there are two things that could happen: 1) Either you go back home and fap because your mind told you to act out on your feelings 2) Or you can observe your mind instead of identifying yourself according to your mind. You can observe by saying here is a beautiful woman that turns me on and gives me the urge to deplete my energy. When being conscious of that feeling , you will also be conscious that the desire is only temporary and you do not need to act out on it. As for being aware of your surroundings, when you understand yourself better and your environment, you are more aware what can trigger you to relapse, whether it is people or the job, or something else stressful. Once you acknowledge this, you are aware of desire, but do not become a slave to it. You will find inner peace and happiness that will improve your other life aspects.

These are the three things I realized after sixty days, because "real women" will always turn us on instead of digital women, you will always have the urges, even though you quit 30 days, 60 days and more, but it is not a bad thing if you use your thoughts and energy elsewhere, especially in doing something that will make you a better person and a happier one too.

 

You spoke true KeenOnWinning I learned this with my last girlfriend. She is pretty attractive brunette, but the attraction was not sexual at first. But hanging out with her, spending time with her with ,just enjoying the present moment without thinking of scoring was the best. And it turned out she became the most desirable woman in my eyes. Other women used to be sex first, interest in her being second. Those relationships fizzle quickly and not worth it.

 

Hey GokuTheWarrior sorry for the late reply. "Buddha's Brain" is a great book, because it is both scientific and spiritual. Eckhart Tolle is also a great author to read ,especially his book " The Power Of Now" . Easy book to read, but very deep and profound as well. A book worth reading several times. I love Mindfulness For Dummies, and was reading it last week during a sunny day where thousands of beautiful women became a distraction but still could grasp the meaning when I stayed focused.

 

Well 67 days, and now I'm on a reset. It was not porn that was the cause, yet I decided to M.O. because for the next 4 months, I will not be on NoFap due to school. Today is my last day off and my last entry on NoFap for a while. But I will be back in four months, and probably will hit 120 days, hopefully