400+ Days PMO Free - Time To Close The Counter

I greatly disagree with that sentence. However congrats for the 13 months.
I don't think you should go back to self stimulation, and in fact i don't think you will trully come back to it when you will realize once again how draining and unbalancing it is for you. You probably take it for granted, but your energy level and confidence will start to lower.
Abstinence is not supposed to be brutal, that's quite the opposite. But your personnal approach of life make it seems that you are "pitta" dominant, with a lot of capacity for anger/ motivation /competition / desire / passion... You might need to cool that down a bit.
Anyway ultimately the point of abstinence is to accumulate and direct energy in other directions than basic animalistics pleasures, especially on a spiritual and personnal perspective, where your evolution is not slowed down or stopped by focus on such desires. That's why you need to drop earthly desires or at least tone them down in order to progress in your existence, and even as i believe be able to change your experience of life and future lives / post mortem experience, but these are my beliefs of course, you don't have to share them.
So if you Nofap to make money, then you might as well get girls for sure....

 

Once you break the big break it will get harder and harder to abstain. If its been addiction to you then you will only feed addiction and make it stronger if you MO. Its like heroin addict been clean for 400 days and then decides he can use heroin sometimes.

Just because you have big streak dont mean that demon is dead. Its still inside and sleeps, waiting to be waken up. I seen guy before with 400+ days. Then he relapsed and struggled to stay clean for longer than 7-14 day blocks. Now more than year later he reached 80 days. So once you broke your big streak it can take long time to recover to previous willpower.

I been thinking about it today and think when person have big streak then you kinda get addicted to nofap and to your streak. But then with relapse addiction to nofap and streak is broken and theres nothing that holds you so strong to keep streak.

You had big streak because you was tired from PMO. You was sick of it and wanted change, wanted to live opposite life. Now you been living this clean life and kinda got used, bored to it. IF you start MO or PMO then you wont have that benefit of stopping because you was sick of it. You will have to get sick again from PMO to stop again, thats why it can take a year to start next big streak. You want to MO only because those days is over.

Better have real sex and find passion in relationships. Relationships are easy when you have a lot of sex. So better save that sexual energy for real thing.

 

Well, you may disagree with this but... In my humble opinion there is good and there is bad, at least in issues related to sexuality.
Porn is bad, masturbation is bad, having sex without love or respect for the other person is bad...
In this sense "bad" means you are not taking the right path to find personal fulfilment, joy and beauty.
So I wouldn't consider NoFap as a competition, challenge or any of the sort. But instead as a means to a better, more intense life.

Take it as a way of life and not as something temporary to challenge yourself. You should enjoy it and not suffer from it.

Sex will come at the appropriate time with the appropriate person.

This is, as I said, my humble opinion and the reason why I begun this personal journey.

Anyway I wish you the best

 

Keep us updated please! Very interested to know if relapse/nothing/success occurs! Appreciate your post!

 

Wow! Congratulations

 

It's funny to see the difference in perspective and opinions from someone who has abstained for 400 days + and someone who has abstained less than 30 days. I've gone without PMO for 90 days but have relapsed to MO a handful of times, which I don't see as wrong because PMO is likely 10x worse than MO. Remember PMO is tricking our brain into thinking it is actually reproducing and messing with our dopamine receptors whereas MO is just nurturing a bad habit based on fantasy. MO is normal, PMO is modern and not normal. Once we abstain from PMO we don't view it the same. I get the comparison of Porn to hardcore drugs like heroine but once we stop using porn, we're simply not dominated by it anymore if we've overcome the problems which led to our addiction in the first place.

Anyways thanks for sharing your story aps1991 and I totally understand the decision to live a balanced life.

 

Very true. IMHO aps1991 is truly healed and liberated.

 

400 days is alot, congratulations. U guess MO could maybe be allowed like once a month without creating addiction, but thats a theory that needs to be proven.

 

After a streak of 3 years and 4 month of no PM(i was in a relantionship) and a relapse(which lead to more relapses) after i broke-up with my girlfriend, i sincerely tell you that, in my oppinion, it is not a good ideea. But you know what is good for you and how you can balance your mind and soul.

 

Andrew, don't close your counter and whatever you do, *don't let your guard down*. I left NoFap more than 3 years ago, haughtily thinking I would never return. Yet here I am, struggling once again, with what appears to be a worse case of what I originally had. For the first time in my life, I've admitted to myself that I am an addict, and that I must *never* stop fighting this addiction.

 

Good luck with that man! Keep us updated.

 

I myself abstained for 5 months & then i thought i am capable to relapse which took me towards MO & then worst PMO..Remember its an addiction...if you stop using cigarretes for a year & then take it back its urge will keep increasing day by day

 

great job man for going this far, to be honest the counter thing is this issue here and the competitive mindset you approached no PMO, all these awareness you have about yourself at the moment is as a result of you being on NoFap. faping will mask your deeper inner most negative emotions due to the release of excess dopamine which prevents you from working on the problem. I suggest you work on the problem instead of faping. Thanks to NoFap I have also been presented with emotions I have repressed unconsciously and am grateful and working on the problems instead of faping, the benefit I have and lessons I have learnt by dealing with the problem is priceless. all i can say is make NoFap a lifestyle instead of counting how far you go

 

Congratulations for going PMO free for over 400 days. Your story gives me hope. From reading the other responses I see that there are those that respectfully disagree with your decision to M to O in the future and I respect their opinions. Each of us must set our own goals and live with the consequences. I am a married man currently in Monk Mode for about 20 days. My wife of 32 years cannot enjoy sexual relations. I will remain true to her so sexual relations are not an option for me. My goal is to make it to 90 days. (Today's goal is to make it to day 21.) When I hit my 90 day goal I will decide whether to occasionally M to O without P or to continue in Monk mode.

 

Going back to fapping is completely your sole choice, but it's totally insane to think that way

Simply, this site is called nofap (fap=masturbation), so it does not make any sense to masturbate after reaching 400+ days! you will still use porn in your brain. masturbation and porn is tightly linked to each other. each one will lead to the other.

Actually, I'm really surprised to see someone who reached this ultra-lengthy streak and still believes that masturbation is OK

Again, it's your choice but I'm pretty sure it's a bad one (why did you stop masturbating in the first place since it's OK?)