Relationship With Your Father

Very interesting view. I actually think you are right, there probably is link between our dad-son relationship and PMO addiction. If somebody have abusive father, in my opinion he has a greater chance of becoming an addict.

 

Hi, in my case its true, my father kind of dropped me when i was about 7. When i was a Teenager, we where complete Strangers.

 

yes,if I'm guided by my father in a good will,I will not get addicted to porn.but its so sad that I lost my father at the age of 6.

 

I don't think that having a poor relationship with your father necessarily means you will be addicted. I've met plenty of people who had poor relationships with their fathers that never developed addictions. I've also met plenty of people who have developed addictions that have great relationships with their fathers.

Having said that, I think that there is a connection between the relationship with your father and PMO in some particular cases. My relationship with my father was horrible when I was going through puberty. He was physically abusive towards me and my siblings, he drank himself into a stupor every night of the week, and he cheated on my mom with one of his coworkers. I used PMO as a way to escape all of that stuff (or maybe as a way to comfort myself through it). In my case, my relationship with my father has a lot to do with the reason I developed my addiction in the first place, but I don't think that means that every person who develops an addiction has a poor relationship with their father.

 

I have a great connection to my father, as we can talk about pretty much anything and he's always been there. When things get rough he's usually the first one I turn to.

Although, as a result of our connection I've talked to him about my relationship- and sexual issues whereas he opened up and told me he got in treatment for porn abuse short after his and my mother's divorce. It's also through his computer I found and got access to porn at an early age. Thus, I'm sure he is the original "cause" for this particular problem in my life.

Not that I blame him. He had issues that he's now faced and I know he didn't have any idea nor intention to affect me by it at the time. And I'm pretty well sure the curious kid that I was would have found access to porn quite early without him. I mean, I was born in Sweden in the 90's... Hah.

 

Great connection with both parents. Just love hot girls and lead to the path of porn.

 

My father has passed. No more relationship with him. As a kid it wasn't swell.

But now I find myself on the other side of the spectrum. I am a father and will be damned if I make the same mistakes he did. I am very interested, and involved in my sons' lives. I coach thier teams, I play thier video games, we backpack and camp all the time, we work together and I teach them all the cool things I wish my dad wasn't to busy to show me. They generally love hanging out with me, and I them. They confide in me with problems, philosophy and sexual questions.
They are great kids all the way around.

However I am not naive to believe that because of my best efforts they won't be tormented by this same affliction. Thier hormones and brain pathways are not mine. Thier world is hyper-sensationalized instant gratification multimedia. It would be hard for any kid today to avoid Porn.

I teach them, show them, counsel with them. But in the end they may be addicts despite my best efforts. That's life.

 

In my opinion the connection is the trust - if you lose trust or never build it with your parents your anxiety levels are higher and you more likely to get into the pleasure trap – as fears fate away when you inside. As the father more likely messes up in the early years of childhood of the kid - based on his own panic of the responsibility and so on .. he basically destroys the root of trust in the kid.

in my case my parents have divorce as I was under 1 year old I had bad vision( this was later discovered ..) and my mom was in stress to find a job. The divorce was reached after fighting and near childish behavior of my father that could be interpreted as sex addiction… so here I am still can not trust no matter how hard he trys to be a nice dad. After all I learned I just pity him now … this not exactly helping with my problems ...

 

I had a great relation with my parents and I'm proud to have them in my life. The only thing that hurts me we never talked about sex before I was 18 yrs old(even with my 2 grand brothers). Sex was a taboo in my family( Christian family). So to be honest, porn taught me about Sex, Well, how To do it at least. So even when I was caught, they just punished me and ... that's it. My father only told me about masturbation when I was 18 years old,but I think I was already addicted.
Well educated? Yes of course, but I think sexually I didn't have the éducation needed, Simply say "porn is bad" is not enough.

 

I have a great relationship with my father and also with my mother.
They supported me in all my choices, gave me love and during my therapy.

My problems with porn and chat addiction have a close connection to the fact that I was abused in my 11-13. I was bullied at school

 

bro the thing that you learned from your father is that drunken hurts beloved people and the man himself and you know it's not worth it.you may even hate if someone or your father doing this drink stuff.so that's why you decide now to stay away from that kind of addiction as well as porn.

 

I have a great relationship with my father. We discuss, we listen to each other, we go out together and he always gave to me whatever I needed. As he has always been working hard, I didn't and still don't spend much time with him. Many people that see our relationship, make good remarks to him about it. Of course, nobody is perfect. He is overprotective, ironic and many times he treats me with depreciation.
Finally, I don't believe that he is the reason why I got addicted to porn...

 

Yes, watching my father's life deteriorate as a result of his drinking habits have certainly persuaded me to stay far away from alcohol. I rarely drink alcohol, and when I do it's usually in situations where it would be rude for me not to drink (like if a client for my business buys me a drink at dinner). His life is still falling apart as a result of his drinking. He's had health issues, relationship problems, and trouble with the law as a result of his drinking. He still hasn't hit rock bottom, and it's really hard to watch him destroy his life. I know I will not make those same mistakes with my life.

 

When I was a child, my father watched porn when he was still married to my mother. He is pathetic.

Edit: But my problems with him go beyond giving me an addicted personality.

 

I grew up without a father. Thats part of my reasoning as to why I started to masturbate prone and watch porn at an early age. Both leading me to have some sexual dysfunctions. Things have improved, but I am still working on it. I couldn't rely on my mother and older sister to help me with my sexuality or teach me anything about it.