Time to walk away??

I think those videos are great, but remember you can’t make him absorb them. You can’t control him. He has to be willing to do that work.

All you can do is focus on yourself. Are you in Therapy?

 

Make it a boundary ! Lol

 

Whelp you have a ton of support here ! You know his language by now , do the things you plan from a place of love for yourself not a place of hate for Him . I hope it goes well , it doesn’t always go as planned in our head as we all know . Best of luck , I always say in advance “ id like to have a conversation with the man I said “ I do to “ not the PA “

 

One thing learned was you don’t suppress the anger it’s part of the cycle. You need to process it or it can become very damaging to yourself and others.
Some woman dance, some literally run it out of them I like I did. Some have put energy into deep cleaning and even chop wood, take down old fences to built a new one. What ever works but I have at least find a healthy physical act works for you to release the anger.
I urge you to find a safe healthy outlet for it. I would take my anger out on treadmill. It was an hour day in the beginning and slowly went to a few times a week. I would let myself feel it. Think all the things I needed to. The angrier I got the harder I pushed myself. It was the safest healthiest way I could come up with. By the time I was finished I was to tired.