Slightly unusual case but I'm in!

Hey! Good to be here.

I'm a 32 year-old full-time self employed game dev based in the UK. It's quite possible you've played games I've made, but I don't want to make my identity too public so I'm not going to say what they are. If you end up doing detective work please don't doxx me or post elsewhere about me being here! Heh.

I'm a slightly unusual case, I don't really have a porn addiction, I can get off just fine without it and often do, but I do get off a whole lot and I want to reboot for my wellbeing and my relationship. I have, for a very long time, had a little bit of the "death grip" problem, so sex and foreplay can be quite unfulfilling and it puts a lot of pressure on my wife. She has a lower sex drive than me and some mental health issues which mean sometimes her drive is extremely low, which leads me to use porn instead of inconveniencing her. Though while I don't believe I am addicted to porn itself, it does seem like the more frequent I get, the more I start to need to use it, and the more I do that, the weirder the porn gets. I've come to rely on that instant gratification, which also spills out into other parts of life, like bingeing on sugar and soda, and not having patience for the kind of stuff that takes time to see results of, like working out.

Occasionally, I have abstained for a while in the past, 2 weeks max. Every time I've done it I've felt different, even from those short periods, and as soon as I get back into sexual activity it feels SO MUCH BETTER, like a completely different experience, but I quickly go back into the habit. When I heard about this site I felt like having a name for it, a challenge, a community, a counter, is exactly what I need to stand between me and going back to the habit. I want to be a better me, I want that discipline, I want my wife to be able to 'get me there' without wearing herself out, I want to stop feeling the urge every time I see anything even remotely resembling a female body (and sometimes even male!).

I'm going for PM, because if my wife wants me I'm not going to refuse, but she is going through some treatment for a mental health thing at the moment which makes sex the last thing on her mind, so it's probably going to end up being PMO for a few months anyway.

Good to meet you all.

 

Thanks very much! Actually I notice you're form the UK too so instead I'm gonna say cheers!

 

Good to meet you!

I lurked around the subreddit a little (I love Reddit!), but I chose to come here instead for relative anonymity, since a Reddit user's posts all appear on their profile, and I use an account related to my game development!

Thanks for the vibes, and good luck to you too!

 

Good call, man. It’s always so much better when it can be a passing thing you can take or leave, and simple nudes once in a while can be satisfying, if even that!