Countdown to My Wedding- Oct 20

Paris is the best place ever

 

Define successful, I think for me a successful marriage is when you don’t need to expect sex.

 

What a great gift to your bride. You don’t know how blessed you are to start your marriage this way and to stay that way throughout. Don’t turn back and 50 years from now you’ll have something to truly celebrate!!

 

God give you more HAPPINESS/LOVE/HEALTH/WEALTH AMEN

 

My first piece of advice is to not categorize her reaction as “purely emotional.” Even if you don’t say that to her if you think it your reaction is very likely to show it. And please don’t ever say that to her! Why? Because it minimizes how she feels. Women are often dismissed as too emotional. Oh she’s on her period she must just be acting irrational. It’s not that her reaction is emotional it’s that you categorize it that way because you don’t understand her reaction. It’s okay that you don’t understand. It’s okay that you would not react as she did we are all different. That’s why you need communication and understanding. Instead of dismissing how she feels as infounded validate her feelings. Try something like this: “ I know that what I did upset you and I am really sorry. I want to avoid it again so can you help me understand why you feel that way?” 99.9% of the time there is a very valid reason for her reaction you are just not seeing it and she’s not telling you because she assumes you should know. She may even feel offended that you don’t.

So talk. But I will take a guess at why she’s upset. Women who have been in relationships with pmo addicts develop very low self esteem. It gets worse the longer it goes on and it takes a very long time to rebuild. This is true even if she’s the hottest woman ever she’s insecure trust me. She wants you to stand in the line next to her because you are talking to other women. If you are beside her then she knows you are only paying attention to her. You may also be checking out other women without even realizing you are. Do what she needs to built that esteem back up. If another women approaches you and starts having a convo with you even if it’s just innocent cut it short. If your partner is nearby say to the other woman “hey let me introduce you to my girlfriend.” Then walk over to where she is and introduce the two. I hope this helps.

 

You did the right thing by escaping. The path you were headed down leads nowhere good. Keep your eyes on the goal of 28 days.

 

Brother i feel so happy for you that you have get rid of your addiction habit. You are a lucky person. I feel like i can never overcome my addiction problem but after reading this thread i have a believe and faith in myself i can do it this time if other person can do it it i can do it as well. If i rewind back i have destroyed my teenage life, education, my early career in professional life. I have been regretting myself for years about my porn addiction but i cant do anything about it until now.

 

Congratulations! Well done.

 

Congratulations! May you and your wife always find joy in each other and the little things in life. Have a blessed honeymoon!

 

I am so happy to hear this! Congrats to you on your very hard work. Hopefully you will inspire others to see it can be done. Enjoy your wedding and your new life with your bride!

 

I've heard it said most couples don't have sex on the wedding night since they're exhausted from the wedding...