What are you doing to get out from your comfort zone?

The Edge of every person's comfort zone is his Fears , you fear talking to a hot girl ? Do it , you fear kissing one ? do it , you fear going out from your house ? do it , that way you can expand your comfort zone to other things more challenging , it's same as NoFap challenge , you challenge yourself to do things that scares you
that way you will Build your Core confidence
--> but be aware that everyone has there fears , even if they look TOUGH/muscular/fat/tiny do you fear Failure ? hhhh SUCCEED

 

Yea that's true. But also one should have a strategy to accomplish those things. If a complete newbie just walks up and start making out with a hot girl well, she'll probably Slap him to February, 33 (which does not exists). Find a actual strategy to do the thing you fear most, as long as its productive to yourself.

Nofap is a strategy for porn addiction.

BTW I'm going out more often. Kinda frightening tho cause anxiety kicks my ass when I'm talking to people sometimes. But that's how I know I'm growing.

 

Am I reading your sig right? Part of your plans for Friday nights are to rob a movie store, lol?!

Great thread idea.

I wish I had a bunch of stuff to share, but in all honesty I don't.

I still feel like I'm having withdrawals, or still suffering from damage I wrought upon myself this last relapse. Binges are no joke. Especially when you throw drugs and alcohol into the mix on top of PMO.

I have faith that in the next couple months my brain will repair fully, because literally I can feel the left side of it, I tweaked something in there, and am probably lucky to be alive honestly.

I can't use this as an excuse though, and will have to start making small steps right away, everday, facing one little fear, even if it's just going into a store and starting a conversation with a sales associate.

 

I feel as if I've been using nofap as a excuse to not approach people. I've lived in that reality until 10 minutes ago, after reading the last part of your post. Honestly I think because I know the harm of porn and how long I've been watching it I think I must be perfect before I can approach I super hot chick. I'm not even kidding here, I actual think it to my self sometime. I'd say "I'm not going to approach another girl until I've gone 90 days", and so far I haven't gone 90 days 'yet'. I guess it's because I lost a gf to this thing and I became really insecure about it for a while. Also the added stress of not approaching be for I'm perfect (aka finishing nofap) added huge amount of pressure/stress and made me relapse alot.

I hope someone gains value from what I wrote.

 

Im going to Write a list over my fears and skills I want to improve. Some bullet poins below:

* Practice on a clearer, deeper voice. I know I have it. I yust tend to speak With a different voice when im insecure.

* Practice on social status skills. This isnt really any Hokus Pocus. Its all about knowing my core values, have the balls to stand up for myself, be kind but not foolish about it, develop some real confidence.

* Confidence. I dont think this is really a problem for me when I get deep into the nofap thing. But even tough I generally feel like a confident person I think I can get rid of some bad habits. I can learn more about body Language, practice on a confident body Language. This leads to a New point:

* Eliminate unecessesary Words from my Language. I notice that I sometimes use meaningless Words to fill up the empty Space between or after Words. Its nothing wrong in taking breaks when speaking. People will listen.

This was yust a few. Observe Your habits, ask someone else to comment on Your behaviour so you can Discover Your blind spots. Think about situations when you feel insecure. Analyze it and find out exactly what you fear.

 

I do the weirdest stuff I can think of in public and am confident while doing it. Once I complimented strangers, another time I did pushups in public. I will be doing much weirder things soon.

 

Vik17 thats sounds more like fun to me

 

First of all I just want to say this is a great thread idea. I'm finding it difficult to step out of that "comfort zone". It's a hard thing to do and as a fapper it's so easy to get stuck in a rut and keep following the same routine day after day after day.

About a month ago I decided to quit my job of 4 years on a whim. Wasn't happy with life anymore, so I quit. That was the first step. I managed to get a great job in the same industry, but had to move from the comfort of my small 12000 person town where I knew so many people to a small city of 300000 people where I know no one. That was the leap. I struggled at first, but recently have gotten a little streak going and have gotten the balls to go to they gym here. I now feel without a doubt I made the right decision. These are a couple things I have done, but I feel I need to do more. Does anyone have any tips for meeting people. It's great I've taken these steps, but I can't spend all my time alone. Baby steps I guess.

 

if u ask me i think that "honest is the best polsy " . as i noticed that lof of people i meat and talk to in my collge dont know each other name ... so i just ask them :" dude i am so sorry but o forgot your name , could u reminde me whats your name " ? or even to girls . try approchting to girl and tell her :" hi somthing funny " then she will ask " what " ? and u will answer :"os sorry i tried to say somthing funny but that is all i could think of " usially the girl will luafgh trust try to be honest with people

 

Mine is to talk to girls on daytime. Approaching one girl is not so hard anymore but groups is imitating so have to try that. And public speaking is something a would want to try more.

 

I will be changing the belief about myself that kept me stuck in the house to begin with. Sometimes facing your fears isn't enough and you gotta go deeper to effect the change that you want in yourself.

 

I've been working a lot on comfort-zone this I started NoFap. Here is what I did, step by step:

1) Making your bed in the morning: quite easy but it teaches you a certain discipline which is very important for the next steps.

2) Cleaning your room/flat at least once a week: step 1 and 2 helped me with discipline but also to feel more confortable inviting people at my place.

3) Cold showers every morning right after waking up: From the first minute of your day, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to improve. Stick to step 3 and never give up! (I started 10months ago: it has been a lot of suffering but for nothing I will give up my morning cold shower!)

4) I left my home country: Quit your job/univeristy and go somewhere you don't know anyone. You'll soon realize there's a world outside of your close circle of relatives/friends.

5) Talk to strangers: In certain circumstances, there's something bumping to your mind but nobody around you to talk about it. Why don't you talk about it with the stranger sitting next to you in the subway? I first I felt stupid, but I soon realized people are actually happy to talk to you. I met quite a lot of persons by doing so.

Bonus: Stay fit. By practicing sport, you feel great in your body which help you feel more confident.


The shy guy I used to be doesn't exist anymore! I'm the perfect introvert, and there's nobody to stop me doing what I want to do!

 

I go for my run within 15 minutes of waking up, no matter what the weather is like.
I find that doing something challenging first thing is a great way to set you up for your day. It strengthens motivation and makes you feel great afterward. I used to take cold showers daily, however, I've stopped as I started getting really bad headaches under the freezing water.

 

Taking an improv class is a great way to meet people and definitely gets you out of your comfort zone.

 

It is actually really fun but far from comfortable. Try going in public and tell a random girl that she is pretty, then walk away. It has been a long time since I last got online, so I know I replied quite late. Lol.