Advice needed

ok, so this may sound like a kind of stupid post, but I could really do with some advice here.

I'm 20 and have been attempting nofap for around 2 years, making it to 30 days only once.

I'm currently on day 3 but feel as though I will continue this time for a while as I have had enough of the pmo side effects, such as: fatigue, lack of confidence, lack of motivation etc.

I'm still a virgin and the furthest I've ever gone with a girl is just kissing. What I'm worried about is that when the times comes when I do have sex, is that I won't know what I'm doing, which makes me feel embarrassed and is playing on my mind a lot. How do people know what they're doing on the first time without making a complete mess up of things? It's all well and good watching porn, but experiencing it first hand is a totally different matter.

On Friday I went on a night out with a friend, and approached this girl I liked in a club. I never ususally do this kind of thing, but just went for it. She started dancing with me, but I didn't have the conviction to take things to the next stage, that's my problem. I don't have the confidence, because I don't really know what I'm doing, so I end up losing the situation.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can overcome this? I get that the more I try approach a girl the better I'll become, but I've often bee not scared to even approach mainly due to worrying about rejection; which I really think is all linked to pmo. It makes you less motivated to meet a girl, less likely to challenge yourself to do things etc

 

Thanks for your reply. Yeah, fairly young; I'm 20. I think I'm just worried about what to expect/ especially because guys obviously have to lead. I'm not actively looking for a girlfriend right now, as I have too much on work-wise, that would be too much of a distraction for me atm. But the problem then is you become horny, and the cycle of reverting back to pmo happens..

 

Thanks for the advice man