Does not having a girlfriend in high school/university have repurcussions on your life

I disagree brother!
Between the ages of 20 and 30 I think a guy is best going on the offensive with regards career and finances! Make some moneys, invest or start a business.

Women can hold you back. Be the best version of yourself you can.

 

It's just a matter of experience.

Like with anything, if you lack the experience, you're incompetent and insecure with it.

The longer you neglect that area in your life, the more you build it up in your mind to be important, the more you're afraid to fail at it, and the more you're likely to neglect it even more. Porn is just one of the ways to escape and neglect your problems.

So now that you're suddenly giving focus to this area in your life when you're older, you lack the experience, and it's more important than it needs to be.

 

Hell no. Having a girlfriend when you should be focusing on getting your life together is a huge distraction. Wasting time and money on a chick that most likely wont be your wife isnt going to prepare you for marriage but having your shit together will.

 

I completely agree with the messages above. It's perfectly fine to bit have s girlfriend, and it might even be a good thing. It's fun to be in a relationship, but if that person isnt going to be your spouse someday, then it will likely end in heartbreak -- either yours or hers or both. And there's nothing wrong with focusing on school and personal growth. Being in a bunch of relationships doesnt necessarily prepare you for marriage at all. But learning a lot about yourself will.

 

That doesn't matter at all!
Although I definitely have had some chances of getting girlfriends in the past, I just considered the time not being right at the moment and the effort not worth it. I am glad I took those hard decisions at the time because today, I am killing it in life and things are really going my way because I got my shite together back then when it was necessary. I also get more and better female choices for every day which feels really empowering.

Many of my former friends who were always busy chasing chicks and pleasing their girlfriends have quite mediocre and mundane lives today because they never put much effort into prioritizing or thinking a few years ahead of time. Many of them are whining about why things didn't turn out that great for them.
Honestly, I don't have much sympathy for these slackers as they had plenty of opportunities (that few people had) and flushed them down the toilet.

 

In high school and college had no girlfriend. I focused on my career and saving money. At 51yo I’m at a point now where I can take luxury trips and live comfortably.

I’ve never married, no kids, and haven’t had a woman in my life in a couple decades. And that relationship ended disastrously because I started using her as a sex toy. So I’m in no hurry to rush into another relationship.

Porn has made me lousy when interacting with women and I need to learn how to be a better man for a good woman. I think I’ll die before that happens but it doesn’t matter. I’m enjoying life now single.

 

Nah, I would rather be a straight, single 27 years old male forever and I do not think I will ever get a girlfriend or get married because I'm an autism a bit. Living in the age today, it can be anything but a waste. Otherwise, I love myself.

 

No..no..no. not at all. Trust me. I'm old. You just worry about yourself and live for yourself first. Plenty of time for women in the future.

 

I have not had much luck with the women when I was young and I really wish it would have been different. Youth is when you enjoy your life the most. Sex and love are an essential part of this. Don't miss out on enjoying your youth if you can! It does not last forever!

Fuck all this money, business and career bullshit! You can't take your money to your grave, you won't enjoy life when you are old just because you are rich.

I think I would be happier now if I had been happier back then. Unfortunately, I often think back on my youth lately and ruminate about all the missed opportunities. It is not healthy.

therefore I tell you: Seize the day ... if you can.

 

True but I think you're suffering the greener grass syndrome. I know some womanizers and they are miserable.

 

oh, yes the greener grass syndrome is certainly with me. And as for the womanizers, I have observed that people get used to what they have and take it for granted. Thus they do not enjoy the happiness that you'd think they would enjoy. Look at all those famous rock stars and actors who are alcoholics. You'd think they are on top of the world, but they are just as miserable as anyone else.

 

True statement! One thing I hav noticed with some womanizers in my outer social circle is that although they are good at catching fish they are not as good as rinsing through the net. In other words, they tend to go after only what catches their eyes and don't see the other things some of these women might bring to the table (such as poor character and drama).
Although I have started to attract way more women since the start of my NoFap-journey, I still see no need to go out each weekend and hook up with dozens of women just for the sake of some approval or story-telling.
Still, I am as confident as can be and prefer to screen thoroughly before I decide if a particular woman is a catch or not. I rather be close to a few great women throughout my life than a hundred bad ones. Plus, changing women too often can cause you some big troubles with infidelity the day you decide to settle down. Especially if you have a family at the time.

 

I am 23 years old and I have never had a girl, now when I work all day I lack a little communication with women, but not to say that this is very critical. I think this is all very individual.

 

Sex can be an escape and use wrongly. You have to be ready for that, sex or relationship is not the game. Also even if you cannot take your money on the grave, your succes can create a legacy that Will last.

 

I couldn't agree more. The general mentality among people today is that they always seem to want what they don't have, even when they seemingly have it all. In a way, could it be better to find successes later in life so that you could appreciate them more and not take such things for granted?

 

I would love a girlfriend right now, but know that if I wait for a bit I could get further ahead in life. I’ve always been a high achiever and honestly a bit afraid of women so it’s my fault I’ve never had a girlfriend and if I don’t change it probably won’t happen anytime soon. As long as I can find someone before I am actually old, I will be happy, because I know I have what it takes to provide for them and our children.

 

You can have a girlfriend if you want. But you must ask yourself some questions first.
1. Is she mature enough to handle a relationship?
2. Will she support you in your personal growth without holding you back?
3. Will you be able to set aside time for each other at times when you're getting your life together?

Ask yourself and her, all these questions

Make the 2nd and 3rd question mandatory to ask her. If its yes for them, then go ahead. A healthy relationship awaits you.

 

Also, ask yourself these questions about yourself as well. Dont just focus on what she can give you.

 

Would you like to start a cyberpunk version of Chris-Chan's Love Quest?