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Oral sex with transgendered person

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Raygon, Nov 17, 2018.

  1. Skyfall1125

    Skyfall1125 Fapstronaut

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    So just to be clear here, you are a married man, and you are having oral sex with someone that is not your wife? Is that correct? If so, I would suggest telling your wife the truth about everything and then go to marriage counceling.
     
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  2. Raygon

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    I know its wrong but i dont think what u said is a solution brother
    My wife is very happy and i am very happy with her it is my first time in my life i do this stupid shameful action and i will never ever do it again in my opinion it’s disgusting.
    Realizing what is ur mistake is a huge step and working to better ur self is another huge step and im doing both.

    Today i woke up feeling bad and the same time happy.
    I feel bad because i never knew that one is gona come and im gona do such a thing
    I am happy because i tried it and its out of my mind thats it i hate it so i think good thing i did it cuz honestly it was all over my mind lately i couldnt focus i had to other option.
    I didnt pmo for 24 days now and i really feel great and no urges is coming to me it was just transgendered people
     
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  3. Skyfall1125

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    Marriage comes from the Bible. It is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman. It's not something that people just do because society convinced them that it was the right thing to do. It is a covenant. Your wife deserves to know the truth. Then whatever course of action the two of you choose to take is up to you.
     
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  4. Just to be clear the opposite side of this is you try things and find out they are absolutely for you, but the consequences could ruin multiple lives.

    I tried porn and there is a part of me that absolutely loves it and would continue to use it and escalate its frequency but that's what addiction is. It's also not objectively good for me regardless of how much I may like it.
     
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  5. Davidphd1866

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    Max, thanks for a very intelligent (not that the other posts weren't) comment. It's good to test the logic of statements by stating the opposite. And you did that. Suppose Raygon LOVED giving oral sex on a penis.....(presumed from the context)....then what?

    You tie this all back to the origin very nicely without dismissing anyone's struggles. That is, we are talking about addictions.
     
  6. Well, I'd say in the case that you realise that you'd ruin multiple lives by doing something you like, you'd come to the conclusion that it is still "not for you". I may like hard liquor, for example, but I have certainly decided that it is not for me. I can't handle it.
     
  7. outlander.9

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    I hope for the sake of your wife and children that you get this straightened out.

    It's honestly upsetting to see this issue being given the pat on the back treatment: it is a disgrace to your family and it's not ok. At all. You can theorize about gender and sex all you want on the internet, but put yourself in the shoes of being related to someone who exhibits this kind of behavior.

    Imagine the utter shame of being a child whose father has sex with transsexuals, no kid deserves to grow up like that. Do your duty as a man and fix this bullshit.
     
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  8. At least someone here is seeing sense. If I did something like that, I simply wouldn’t be able to live with myself. I would literally die from shame. This is such a great betrayal of everything a family man should prize as sacred.
     
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  9. socuzuf

    socuzuf Fapstronaut

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    It's does not matter to us if you have sex a man, women, trans person you don't have to put it through forum; Also it is super hypocritical to get your dick sucked by someone and ask people if its okk while being married; it's doesn't sounds okk meee
     
  10. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    I'm wondering something here socuzuf.....how are your condescending and insulting words helping ANYTHING in this situation? I see that you're only two days sober yourself, which makes me wonder how you're so qualified to judge someone with a problem like this. And putting things like that on this forum, asking for help is EXACTLY what this forum is for. So if you're only here to judge and insult people, I highly recommend you go peddle your trash somewhere else. And one last thing, maybe get some help for yourself instead of calling people hypocrites.

    (https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/hi-everyone-im-just-another-addict.203487/ before insulting other people with problems. Yeah, I read your story, and I know that your problems are just as bad as these problems, if not worse, HYPOCRITE.)
     
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  11. socuzuf

    socuzuf Fapstronaut

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    im not insulting anyone it's a forum for people who trying to beat their porn addiction; yes my condition is worse but please don't encourage people going to hookers while they are married that will worsen their condition and can entirely ruin a marriage also life. Hope you understand
     
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  12. Raygon

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    I agree with u bro.
    I promised myself and id rather die than do it again thank god
    All the sexual shit doesnt even cross my mind now i gave all my time to my family.
    Honestly when i look back i get disgusted from myself never again im much happier now its been 30 days that i didnt pmo its the best feeling in the world im very happy now man i feel like i woke up from a nightmare.
    Again thank you soo much for ur replay I appreciate every single word u said to me
     

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