Addicted to Cuckolding and PIED. HELP ME PLEASE

When I was real young I cured deathgrip with Astroglide. As for erections, stop masturbating for like 2-4 weeks.

 

Deathgrip will cause delayed orgasm to where you have to screw for a hour, and sometimes can't cum. It will also make it hard to stimulate yourself to full erection. No dry docking.

 

Then bring the sensory bombardment down, stop watching porn. If you are in a relationship, all of your sexual energy should be directed at your partner. They should be your only outlet.

 

Then you must stop watching porn.

 

Cuckolding is completely abnormal and it's a mental health issue. Do not pay attention to @BartlebytheScrivener who tries to normalize and glorify it.

Given your history of being cheated on, your arousal probably got wired to that, but the same way it got wired to that it can get wired back to normal stuff.

Did you fantasize about having sex with your ex after she cheated on you? Or fantasize about her with someone else? If yes, that's a very straight forward explanation on how the cuckold paraphilia formed and i've read many cases of cuckold interest appearing after being cheated on.

The point is you need to go to a psychologist (make sure it's not a "new age sex positive" therapist) that understands this is completely abnormal and unhealthy. You should confess your feelings of shame and what's bothering you. And you need to stop thinking about your ex all together. Throw away anything related to her, do not think of her at all. And obviously stop watching porn, as porn is basically cuckold training (you're watching another man have sex with the woman you are attracted to).

This is not who you are at all, read my reply to the other guy. No man is naturally a cuckold, it's a bad and unhealthy learned behavior that can be unlearned.

No, that is intellectualization and it's a defense mechanism that helps you cope with all the negative emotions cuckolding comes with. I sincerely wish you get help (and I could help you if you want to) and at the same time politely ask you to stop normalizing or describing cuckoldry as some sophisticated and good stuff.

 

I know I wasn’t naturally this way, it’s something that has developed over the years from watching endless porn.

I remember my original state, it seems so long ago now. In my early teens my tastes were as vanilla as it comes pretty much. I didn’t have fetishes, I just loved girls. Boobs, ass, legs etc was pretty much all I thought about. A girl in a bikini would send me into overdrive, she didn’t even have to be naked (even though I’d prefer that she was lol). Man......to get back to that mindset or even somewhere close to that would be a dream come true.

 

What you all are talking about is escalation and desesitazation.

The following is a passage from the book You’re Brain on Porn:

A 2016 study reports that it’s now common for men to view porn inconsistent with their stated sexual identity. Heterosexual-identified men report viewing porn containing male same-sex behaviour (20.7%) and gay-identified men report viewing heterosexual behaviour in porn (55.0%).​

Sadly, ignorance of how common it is to escalate, paired with ignorance of how often quitting reverses porn tastes, can leave a porn consumer very anxious. When users become obsessed with sexual-orientation doubts they refer to it as SOCD or HOCD, that is, ‘sexual-orientation (or homosexual) obsessive-compulsive disorder’.​

I highly recommend this book!

 

I agree with BartlebytheScrivener that your quitting PM will help you. Anything you experience for the first time can have a big impact on you. For example, my first gf in high school often wore this perfume, and for a long long time, and maybe still today, whenever I smell the perfume, I get incredibly aroused. Well, I don't have the perfume around me anymore.
As everyone here say, there is nothing good about porn. Not having porn near you will help to keep your obsession away. Not acting out is important. When you are actually with a girl, you might still feel the cuckold in you, but erection won't be too much problem. Regular exercise will be helpful, too. Stay strong and let us know how it goes!

 

I really like your heart. You don’t wants to join in the cuckold in real life.

 

I am very optimistic that you will.

I started Nofap because I had constant ED problems. Just after a two weeks of not watching porn it already got better. I am sure you can improve.

The hard part about ED is that you have to forget about the failures of the past and not dwell on the problem. Only if you are relaxed and confident everything works. So try not to dramatise it, take it easy, try not to think about your problem all the time.

Don't listen to religious fanatics, figure out for yourself whether you want to be a cuckold or not. I get the idea that it is simply a personality trait. It is not harmful, so there can't be anything evil about, no reason to be ashamed of it. Shame is also a cause of ED.

Even if you like being a cuckold, it shouldn't dominate your relationship. You should be happy with a partner whether she cucks you or not.

If all else fails, you still have the option of taking the blue pill. Pretty shitty at age 20, but if you need to satisfy a woman, it is better than failing. I know that Gary Wilson believes that blue pills don't help against PIED, but they work with many people, including myself.

My wife and I use Astroglide too. I highly recommend that stuff!

 

I’ve used them before and I have severe PIED. They might not work in all cases but they were a lifesaver for me.

 

You can get past this!

 

Your mind will be much more clear after your 90 days. You can do this.

 

I don't understand being a cuck myself and would be disgusted to be in such a relationship. I am very much a live and let live kind of person and if someone really wants to be a cuck I won't judge them. One thing I have been curious about though in regards to people who live such a lifestyle is are they not worried about diseases? What if your GF/Wife caught something and passed it onto you? Or kissing her lips when she comes home not knowing where they have been?