Break the cycle

Welcome Grunner! We're happy to have you join the community.

I too spent a number of years trying to break the cycle on my own. I found I learned a lot from it and learned a lot of perseverance and discipline, but I also learned a lot from joining NoFap as well. It's a good combination I think. I also think it's healthy to leave NoFap, time and again, to break out on your own and see how you do.

But you're hear now and it sounds like it's the right place to be at this point in time for you. So here are some things you can do to make the most of it:

1.) Start a journal and share your successes, failures, and challenges. This is really helpful because others will read them and be able to quickly identify mistakes or misconceptions and point you in the right direction, because they've done the same thing.

2.) Read lots of journal entries. You can learn a lot, especially from the people who share their success stories (there's an entire forum for this).

3.) Find an Accountability Partner (again, there's an entire forum for this). An accountability partner is just someone to hold you accountable in whatever way(s) you think are most helpful. I would strongly suggest finding someone who has had some long term success as opposed to hooking up with someone who is in a similar place as you.

4.) Help others. Read other people's posts and give them encouragement and empathy. We're all here for the same reason and it is refreshing to be able to talk to and hear from people who know what we're going through. Every single post (or at least almost every single post) is written with the hope that someone else reads it and responds, otherwise, why would people write here? So give back. Even just "liking" what people write is helpful.

Best of luck.