silencing our inner vice voice

Hey - welcome to the forum!
Past success is always a great place to build on for future success, what did you do last time that worked so well?
What can you do to deal with the negative feelings that you try to escape by using porn?

 

You got this! We're here for you. Keep talking about it here, and I even recommend starting a private diary (I do that) and use that panic button when needed. And by the way, 67 days is a huge accomplishment. I'm just starting and have never made it past 20 days in my entire life. Wishing you luck!

 

Believe in yourself! You got this! Give yourself a real goal outside of quitting porn to help you focus on something else. I decided to go to the gym, and I had fun even buying myself a new gym outfit. I feel quite excited about it, and it has helped me to put my energy into some else that is new. I recommend you select something new for you to focus on at the same time as quitting porn. And, too, don't fear a potential relapse in the future. As I've read here, and believe to be true, it's about getting back up after falling down that *truly* counts – remember that. Write it down and put it on the wall for yourself to read everyday

 

Diaries are the best My therapist told me that keeping a diary is a valid form of psycho-therapy, isn't that cool? Definitely my most useful life tool for exploring my emotions and coming up with solutions

 

That's so awesome

 

The thought is the primitive part of you that fears change.

You need to calm it and give it an alternative.

Try saying this to the thought:

"Thank you for the thought, but that's the old, useless way. The new way is to improve so that I can succeed in life."

You can adjust the wording to suit your circumstances. Make sure that you breathe while you do this.

 

Hi Fredi. I always look at it as there are 2 sides of me (a bit like the wrestler's avatar!). One of them is the 'devil' who whispers manipulations focused on securing long term pleasure at any cost. He doesn't want to beat PMO at all - he loves it. And he won't die until the day I die.
BUT, neither will my 'angel' side. So my focus is on giving him as much power as I can.
There have been times when I PMO and the angel voice in me is literally saying"this will definitely make you miserable. Stop now and limit the damage" but the devil is already in control.
However, installing porn filters, mediation, and a healthy dose of willpower are all helping to turn this tide (I really can't recommend porn blockers and not knowing the password enough)

A similar analogy is we all have a bad Wolf and good Wolf inside us. The question is which one do you feed?

Ok so over with the analogies. If you can manage 67 days, you can beat this thing. But don't let minor setbacks dent your confidence. This journey is not a straight line.

 

Let's not forget cold showers to focus the mind. Little by little, they become a necessary part of life once you make a start.

 

Brother, set control system in your mind. The awareness behind thoughts. enforce it with positive things.