Fear of False Rape Accusations - your opinions?

I'm gonna have to say no because I don't usually come across situations that would lead a girl to accuse me of rape. When i was younger that may have been a possibility, however now that i'm older and don't fool around with random girls i don't really have that issue.

 

It could certainly be possible for a few people. I wouldn't bed a woman unless I already knew her and we were both sober — slightly tipsy is too much! I say this with the benefit of hindsight.

 

I don’t fear it; fear only introduces negative energy into your life. Of course, don’t put yourself in stupid situations either. I use common sense, not fear.

 

There aren't any women on the planet that would go to bed with me, so that's not an issue. What I worry about is being falsely accused of sexual harassment at work. I was at first trying to meet women at work in my new location. I just wanted to be friendly and I enjoy chatting with women. But now I've been avoiding them at work after one of them got offended at me for reasons I'm still clueless about.

I have a great job with great pay. I don't want to be fired for just being friendly. I think many women these days are overly sensitive and looking for opportunities to be offended and get someone fired.

I've seen a false accusation happen once already to someone else. Well I guess I should say we all suspect it was false.

The guy had been working at the location long before I got on the scene. Several years after I started at this location there was a woman that hired on that most people hated, especially the women. She was a trouble maker. She was always making sexual jokes, offensive jokes, and belittling people. But if you did the same with her, she'd get very upset. She accused the guy I mentioned of sexual harassment. This guy had never done anything like that while I was there and women there that knew him for even longer said they'd never seen him do anything or heard him say anything that would have been construed as sexual harassment. He was a good hard worker and although not liked by all, he was respected.

Management believed her and not him. He was let go.

So I've been more careful than ever after my weird incident with a woman at my work location. I didn't do anything that I thought was harassment. But apparently in her eyes I did something wrong. I think now a good policy for work is if you don't have to deal with the opposite sex, then don't. If you do have to, keep it to a minimum. I know many PC people will disagree with that but I think it's better to be safe than sorry. I'm about ten years from retirement. I don't want to start over again someplace else because of a false allegation.

 

Dont have sex with people you dont love and trust, and you probably wont have anything to worry about.

 

I saw this story on a youtube comment:

If somebody was actually raped they would go directly to the cops, not wait four months then post about in on facebook.

You are right to now distrust having sex with strangers, so it's good you learnt something.


I am not particularly worried about false allegations against me, but something could happen in the future once I am in a company. Despite me being very polite and socially reserved, stories about the metoo movement make it seem like it could happen to any man.

 

I'm not worried but this whole #metoo/ rape culture climate is something that I feel every man should be mindful of. I'm single and my plan is to be obedient to God going forward so in addition to letting go of PMO, I've decided not to have sex anymore until I am in a real committed relationship. For a while I though I would die or have a nervous breakdown if I wasn't have sex or at least PMOing once in a while but my longest streak taught me that it is totally possible for me to control my sexual urges and doing so makes me much stronger. I abstained from PMO and weed for a month and I felt more free than I've ever felt since I got wrapped up in all this stuff to begin with.

I somewhat agree with what @Castielle said just because a false rape accusation is only one of the many reasons people shouldn't be running around having casual sex with everybody they can. I do have issues with the Kangaroo rape courts that have been installed on college campuses and the hysteria in the corporate world.

1) You don't actually have to have had sex or any intimate contact with a woman to be accused of rape. There are many cases where women claimed rape with no proof and the men they accused were tossed in jail with no evidence. There are some really crazy ones where the guy accussed wasn't even in the state at the time of the alleged assault. Some of the guys actually served prison time and were released years later after their lives and careers were ruined or possibly been sexually assaulted themselves.

2)I don't like the way the schools, employers and the courts tend to let the false accusers slide. I hear of tons of cases where the female accuser's story folds while under investigation and she admits to making up the story but she suffers no consequences after the fact. This allows and encourage dishonest women to use rape as a weapon because she can use the accusation for revenge, personal or political gain and suffer no consequences.

I don't believe in paranoia but this day and age guys need to be careful. I havent been very sexually active this year but I went on 2 cruises this year and I met alot of women and I ended up spending time with a couple of them. I didn't go as far as having sex because I don't do one night stands or sex with strangers but we went to clubs and events, we spent time alone away from our respective groups, made out and had mini dates on the ship in addition to spending time with a girl in her room.

I'm not worried about anything but given the current climate, it's totally possible that one of them can say something innapropriate occured 5 years down the line and I could end up in the same position as many of these other guys you see on TV and it's a little concerning.

 

I hear you bro. The same here man. In any case, I am not the sort of person that worries about "what ifs". I have far too much anxiety to manage in real life as it is, without conjuring up possibilities of things that would never happen to me.

 

False accusers should get the same prison time as the accused would if convicted of the alleged accusations. Juveniles should be punished as well

 

Yes, good call!

 

I agree. TBH, I have seen a couple of cases where women have been sentenced to jail time after falsely accusing guys of rape in criminal cases but these are far and few between. They didn't get much time and will probably only serve a small fraction of it but paying for lawyers, going to jail and losing their livelyhood sends a good message. As you said, this needs to be taken much more seriously.

I dont even recommend watching this cause it's horrible but anyone who sends another human to a place like this should be dealt with. If you do watch it, it will probably keep you on the straight and narrow for life, lol!

 

It really do be like that sometimes. Watch your back jack

 

This is a good rule to live by.

IMO false accusers should be given the death penalty.

 

Pretty harsh

 

This.

Drunken hookups is asking for trouble. If you play with fire, you might get burned.

 

I cant speak to their specific situation, but this is not completely unheard of. Trials can be really hard, sometimes even harder than being open with friends and family and other people who are supportive in your life. There are definitely reasons why people could feel comfortable with one and not the other, so that doesnt automatically mean they're lying.

 

Since I believe I made some poor decisions I fear it more than I otherwise would.