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Porn vs Marriage

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by mutu, Feb 26, 2019.

  1. mutu

    mutu Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys,

    I have a question and I would like people who are married or at least had real sex answer this because they would know better.

    Why do porn addict always want to see different girls and porn scene and if they see the same scene over and over again they lose erection and interest. Whereas married people can have sex with the same partner over and over again and no lose of interest or erection!
     
  2. Because sex is real and porn is artificial. It’s fake. You’ll always keep searching for that “perfect” video but it will never satisfy you.
     
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  3. I find it easy to answer your question because I am married and had a vice in PM being fed for 15 years. First, seeing several scenes is possible because of the fast internet that we have today, before if you could upload a video or a photo we would be immediately fapping. Second, because pornography is not real, the imagination with high doses of dopamine tells you to look for as many females as possible, that is, the amount of orgies and bizarre sex that I can handle. Third, real sex (in my case) has a greater meaning, because it is REAL, because I smell, taste and feel my real woman, I am in love with her and it does not make me want any other. Basically that's the difference.
     
  4. I am not married but I know of many married people , and to think there living the porn star life and not lose interest its obvious your never married because every married person I know has issues they work threw with there wife I would say half wish they were not married . That's the problem with single men they think they get married and all the problems will go away. That's the facts of married life from at least 10 guys I know
     
  5. Vet81

    Vet81 Fapstronaut

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    Sex during a long term relationship is quite different from porn....
    I'm married.
    We are happy together and love each other BUT sex is very infrequent.
    Part of it is "my fault" due to porn etc... But it is a "two way". Street. I am trying to quit porn for many reasons, but one of them is to save my marriage . And have a. Better "real life " sex life .
     
  6. because porn is different, there is no love or connection, and no real interaction, with married people they have a bond, love for eachother, and that matters.
     
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  7. Lilla_My

    Lilla_My Fapstronaut

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    Partnered sex is dependent on oxytocin release for both male and female. We kiss, cuddle and touch. This primes us for child rearing and bonding, keeping us monogamous and interested in each other; sexually, spiritually, emotionally.

    Porn on the other hand works with a solely dopamine related system, where one strives on more and more excitement. This requires constant novelty, a larger amount of imagery and a progression into more rare and kinky content to keep the interest.

    Partnered sex will never be as initially "exciting" as porn, it's just not constructed that way. However, it is MUCH more satisfying, fun, healthy, enjoyable, complex and memorable even after many, many years of married life than p will ever be.
     
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