[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Carry on the good work dear!!

 

The choice is yours whether you wish to abstain from orgasm during this journey. However to make significant, remarkable changes in your life, I feel you should make an attempt to be on hard mode! You need to preserve the vital seed for undertaking any challenging endeavors in life.

 

Day 14/90
Urges are coming back. I will ignore them and move forward. is starting to grow and I will make it bigger.

 

Thank you! I'm just glad I have a place I feel comfortable sharing this stuff, I definitely wouldn't have made it this far without this website and it's very supportive community!

 

good luck my brother. let´s go!!

 

Day 4 of 90. Got urges but got help from a fellow fapstronaut. Feeling strong.

 

don´t be alone, get out of the house if you must. urges tend to grow when boredom creeps in so stay active.

 

Thanks mate. Will do.

 

Great attitude about it. Props!

 

here´s the thing, sex s not a relapse, but it can lead to one. after sex you will be haunted by the chaser effect (an urge to repetition) so be aware. at the same time your brain is rewiring from being sex obsessed to regular sex. if dopamine is continuing to be release because of sexual engagement the rewiring may run slowly. as suggestion, it´s better to stay clean of any sexual activity on the first weeks to give your brain a rest.

 

Starting tonight,tomorrow will be the end of day1

 

Still day 1: Looking for purpose. I’ve led an unlived life for too long.

 

35/90

 

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lot´s of relapses today and new brothers. so here are my pointers, i hope it can help.

1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.
2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addicted. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.
3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage, don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life. you can´t control this thing, see for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual stimulation till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.
4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that reminds you do keep doing the reboot.
5 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme measures forbide yourself from being alone.
6 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.
7 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help. never get drunk, excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse.
8 – practice meditation or any kind of relaxation technique daily. This is very important to calm the body against urges and help cope with withdrawal symptoms.
9 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong urges.
10 - to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.
11 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.
12 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.
13 - keep busy. this is the step i found more important (side by side with the daily nofap motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. so fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams. one day at a time, create an epic life.
14 - the addictive mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it, it´s garanteed. so in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power.
15 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation, whether by touch, sound or image. stimulation will create dopamine rushs in the already unbalanced brain, increase urges and after that is hard to stop. so don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak or edge. it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding and pounding until it breaks you and put you on your knees. so it´s better to not even start. if you have a partner and want to have normal sex try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give your brain a rest.
16 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. why? 3 major reasons.
- you´ll be an ex-addicted, that means you will always have a soft spot for porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again.
- PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. that is the core mechanism for any addiction installation.
- in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released on the brain not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.
17 - destroying any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and more determinated. also, all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.
18 – the reboot implies 100% commitement. If you don´t take it serious neither will be the results. If you take it serious, like if your life depends on it, the change is at your hand. You´ll become a new person: happy, faster, stronger, smarter, confident, social, peaceful. You´ll become a high successful person and there will be pretty much nothing you can´t acomplished because he who conquer his demon can conquer anything.

i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my friends. don´t think on the 90 days, don´t think on the castle. just take it one day at a time, one stone at a time. believe in yourself, you can do it.

 

18/90
I had a good day. I was on an alpha course, on which i didn't thought i will come, but they needed someone on the soundboard so I gone. I didn't regret it because the topic was how to beat the bad. I remembered back in the days, when I started the counter, why I started the whole thing, and I dont want to forget it ever. It was not because I wanted superpowers. I started because my God had gave me an advice to not do that, and every time when I say yes to porn, I say no to him, who had gave me everything. I'm really thankful that I reached this far

 

Thanks Bro!

 

Thanks for sharing these tips my brother...how useful!

 

80/90...made it one more day...soon the countdown will begin in single digits. Which leads to a question, when I am done, do I need to leave the challenge? I made a few friends and support here and I dont want to lose those connections. Thanks

 

Day 2/90. One more day towards this challenge!

 

Day 29
After a long time I had last night a wet dream! Huh still a bit happy about that. Also my mood is getting better (i hope). But didn`t go to Breakdance today... Oh and I (and the whole class) failed our exam ^^
What I also realized is that when theres a girl in front of me who I find attractive, Im getting really nervous and anxious. Even if we`re not talking! But with the other girls where I have a friendship level theres everything ok