Younger brother caught masturbating *serious*

It is a hard thing man, but the most important now is a good of your brother and yours as well. You don't need to admit you are addict, but you still can talk with him about risks related to porn habit. You can always show him stories of people from there or other resources like YourBrainOnPorn or FightNewDrug.

What is more, you can try to maintain healthy relation with him. It would be beneficial for you both. You can spend some time with him playing video games, talking or something. Such help can be also great, as the loneliness and lack of support fuels addictions.

 

Dude thats your brothers choice. It doesnt concern you or your mom. %99 of males do masturbate in that age that is statistics. Dont shame him for what he does he is young.If you shame him that will lead him to do secretly masturbate and feel shame for doing it. Just tell him it is a normal thing. And when he gets 20 year old he will stop doing it and probably get a long term relationship with his girlfriend. If he still does it when he gets 20 and becomes a shy, unconfident person, then you can tell him to stop doing it for his good.

 

And probably you know you shy for like long time.You were shy in your 17s. And your brother isnt. So dont shame him and protect him from your mom,dont make him like yourself if you love him. By the way you cant stop masturbate because you think it is the worst thing ever and you think about it too much. If you think too much youll end up masturbating.

 

i have been caught by my mom countless times lol.

 

This is great advice.

 

Masturbation is not something that you just grow out of and that will go away on its own once you have a relationship. And when it is combined with porn it brings all the bad effects that are talked about by everyone in here.

I very much agree with this. It is not helpful and he already feels enough of it anyways. When we shame others it is often to deflect the shame we feel ourselves.

Well, actually you can. And in doing so, you will show him honesty and compassion. And you will experience a new level of freedom from this that you never have because it is a secret that is inside of you that you feel is shameful and have not had the experience of a fellow man look you in the eye and acknowledge that they have also struggled. Confronting your brother while also confessing that you share this temptation and have become addicted to it will bring light to your darkest place and probably his as well. You will then be able to help each other in an in going way. It is scary to be honest about this with your brother, I understand this. It will also bring your relationship to a much deeper level and let him know that his big brother cares about him and is also not perfect and just trying to figure this all out.

This is not as important as understanding that our sexuality is a gift that when kept for and experienced in marriage is a wonderful thing. When we use porn or fantasizing it makes it cheap and something that is only for ourselves. It changes how we view others and what sex should look like, what our body should look like and none of it is real.
Deep inside we know this and that is why we feel bad when we first started to look at porn even though it excited us.
You can be free of this, and so can your brother, and it will happen as you become honest with each other.

 

Masturbation is not the problem. It is a healthy way to love yourself. The problem is a uncontrollable masturbation habit, mixed with porn addiction (watching porn for some people is not a an addiction). Before you think of porn addiction, just talk to your brother. Don’t have him think that touching yourself is a sin or a problem, relying on maasturbation and porn alone is a problem.