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THE DUELS OF NOFAP: NO PMO TOURNAMENT | OPEN FOR ALL

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by HiddenWarrior, Apr 2, 2019.

Have you beaten your record or improved your average noPMO since joining this?

  1. Yes

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    75.7%
  2. No

    90 vote(s)
    24.3%
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  2. really like them quotes, gonna attach that to OP.
     
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  3. feeling good doing good and way too much energy but idc
     
  4. okay so I'm gonna share this coz I found this out a while ago about subliminal messages and one of the cartoons I used to watch when I was younger had masturbate in a frame. You're entitled to your own view to this but it's always creeped me out as well as certain music being played backwards. Anyways let me share https://subliminalmanipulation.blogspot.com/2010/10/introduction-typical-subliminal-message.html. Some I agree may be accidental but I looked into this myself and found way more examples than it gives and also a study was put forward into this and it works in making the audience do certain things.
     
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  5. checkin day 24. How ya doin monky?
     
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  7. I wanna say I failed. I haven't do nothing still, but I made the conscious decision to masturbate today. And I will. Now I am absolutely sure I am dealing with a narcissist in my life, who cares only about herself. And I should not be remembering nothing from us. It hurts. You may thing that is not the way, but for me it seem it is. I was wondering if I should be honest with you, cause I don't want my failure to be trigger for you too. I do not feel like failure. I do not feel addicted. But I feel resentful and hateful towards me to allow a woman to make me miserable, to make me cry, to act crazy bad with me. It is not right. So I cannot jump to another woman right now, I am so hurt, and I will masturbate. Just because I want to. I can go without it, I am sure, but I do not want to anymore. Maybe I will start a new streak after it. It is true that I feel fully rebooted, but I am so mentally abused. I was here trying to heal myself in some kind of way but probably complete retention is not good for my soul. I am getting better and better as human being and getting more played, cause my goodness is NAIVE. I do not want to be control by a woman. I wanted real love. So I didn't masturbate for too long for the sake of our love, which suddenly is once sided. Thank you for being here for me. This forum seems useless for me anymore. But I will continiue to talk with the connection I established and persue my goals. I found out, for sure, that everybody lives for himself. Though I was living for someone else. Congatulations girls, soon I will be out. I am just sorry that I couldn't be stronger motivation for you two.
     
  8. It is official. I do not feel shame. Do not feel shit and do not think going back to pmo. I feel more free- even. Many of us do not recognise our real problem. I finally did. I am great human being, humble said. And my problem is I am giving unlimited chances to a person who always want to be the center of my attention. Even when my grandpa passed away, she was pushing me to talk to her when I didn't wanna talk with nobody. And I did, and she was ungrateful. Even when I had that eye surgery she was saying that if I did it, we are together no more. I heard that so many times. That we will be separated. And she blames me. She blames me that she wasn't with me, even though I invited her. My eyes are so tired, she lives close, but want come to see me. Even though, she know I am home. It is clear. I am a fool. And that was my biggest problem. Once you indentife your problem you will see clearer. I repeat. I feel no shame. I feel no uneasiness. Nothing different. And I hope to get to your goals too. If that seems to you like an excuse it is not. Just I am sure about where my problem is right now. 9 days ago I slept with her and I was kind with her. But didn't tell cause I wasn't counting that for a relapse, because I wanted to be with her and only her. Deep down I knew it was relapse, cause I knew she would not try for me. Thank you for reading all of this. Thank you for being here for me all the time. And I am sorry that my prospective fully changed.
     
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  9. No, it is not like that. But you'll learn that when the time is right for you to learn that. And I think it is better to masturbate (on condition that it is not PMO) than to go for a rebound girl. I have done a few rebounds after my divorce with a narcissist as well and felt like shit afterwards even though the sex was great then. Just make sure that you don't relapse again into a full-fledged PMO addiction.
    If you want some advice regarding narcissists and relationships with them, there's one: these people are like black holes, they suck both positive and negative emotions from people around them, create dramas (because it is the source of emotions aka their fuel), manipulate, gaslight, they do everything they can to stay in the centre of attention. My Dad is one and I consider him to be a high-level narc because once he even successfully imitated empathy and bought me - just to suck the living hell out of me afterwards and cater to his needs and to his view of the world and himself. So it hurts as hell to get burned by these vampires and it hurts even more being alone but you are better off alone that giving your heart on a plate to another person and watch it being cut and thrown away. The best remedy is no contact but when you do that be sure you will have to fight all their secret weapons and techniques. Still, if you are consistent and switch off all your emotions whatsoever you may win and then you will start living and loving yourself again. I am living proof of that. Don't be sorry for not motivating me or @Freedom_lover enough - we all are doing this reboot for different purposes. Good luck beast! Hope to see you here again, in the process of healing further :)
     
  10. Maybe it is not "suddenly"? Maybe it's the discard phase of the relationship with a narc? :) Read on: https://www.meganholgate.com/2017/05/10/4-phases-of-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist/
     
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  11. It is so ugly. My head was so full of suicidal thoughts. No I am numb. Not empty but numb. I hate my eyes not being here for me too read. and ease. Thank you. It is good somebody to relate. Vampirism is worse than murder.
     
  12. I would love to. But I cant :D
     
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  13. Yes I get that and can totally relate to that state of numbness. These vampires get at empaths like you. There's nothing wrong with you - it's them - we just need to be centered and learn how to keep our boundaries. Always vigilant. I have noticed that nowadays I am instantly repulsed by the presence of a narc, I can feel them now and see through their bullshit early on. Just be gentle with yourself. This too shall pass :)
     
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  14. @Saiyan123 please update the list of participants of 2v2 duel, now there will be #girlpower vs AI if @010010010100000101001101 will show up to check in within a week :)
    OK then search for "discard phase narcissist" on youtube and listen :)
     
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  15. Coolbuddy7

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    Please don't be sorry for anything at all. You just realized what you needed to be away from. We are all here to learn what we need to be away from. I don't think the most of us in here, know what we have to be staying away from exactly, but, guess Over-addiction towards PMO meant, we had to stop doing it. Now there are parts of our lives where we all have to improve ourselves upon. You have identified it, whereas we're doing it, and by "we" I mean, all of us, who are yet to find our area's of improvement.

    Sad to know that you're going through so much pain :(. I will be interested if you want to talk or just want some company or anything
    (I have never been there, So, if you need something, and if I can be of any use, I will sure be there !). Wish you the very best in jumping back again to begin living so enthusiastically. CHEERS, :)
     
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    I can't even imagine being in these kind of situations, and still I keep thinking that I am the one going through a lot of problems in my life, and living in hell. You all are so brave, and are facing a lot of problems in your life. Knowing all of this, I feel motivated to fight against all my problems, and get back to live a good life. I will pray for your eyes to get better very soon, brother Beast. You all have a lot of problems going on, and yet, you smile, and face your problems with courage. Truly inspiring. Hats off ! Wish you the very best in your life ahead brother @BeastBoyBalling . I hope I am not making you strain so much by writing long replies. CHEERS, and Good Luck. It would still be so good to have you around, so, hope you're getting into another duel, in your own time.
     
  17. Since I feel you interested some. Before I met this girl I was ''player'' chillout persona. Never was much into sex. Though I showed a specific person all the places that which were important for me. All the people. All the hobbies. She reduced them drastically. All the stuff. All my soul. I have pictures, everything. I am wearing her T-shirts even. She went military. I supported her. Last year I was studying all night every night for 2 months to be able to finish my year because I wasn't attending lectures because of her. I always liked her, do the best for her. But she was always ''you are bad'' sometimes even say I am trash. When I was more chill I was hanging around the block. Like swagging. Chilling never been a smoker or some. I was very much into sports before destroing my leg and undorgoin additional 2 surgeries in different parts of my body. I found peace in books, but sports is eating me alive. And this girl... I left the best of me. I cannot make my mind still to never answer. Cause she will be ringing, searching. When I am not there , she loves me. Yes, that is true women love. I hope fleurette relates. I feel like women really love the thing they cannot have. The beautiful dream. Certanly nobody loves a boring solid guy like me at the age of 22. There a lot of things talking for her in my room. It is actually our room. Soon it will be mine. Cause imma remove everything. That will destroy me. But I find no other way. WANTING THE BEST FOR SOMEONE, WHO DOESN'T WANT IT FOR HIMSELF, just a waste of time. She knows I am worthy. But shit test me all the time. Vampire my passion. These people are so manipulative that can implement thoughts in your head. That are not yours. And you starting to believe them. THATS WHY I AM SO SAD WATCHING HERE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR SOUL MATE. THAT IS SO SO SO SO RARE. AND NORMALLY IS SOMEONE WHO YOU DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH. WITCH MEANS IS NOT YOUR WIFE. I got nothing to say but be careful. Eye antibiotics time.
     
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  18. So much points that I can relate. Even though they are differences in detail. That sums it up.
     
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  19. Coolbuddy7

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    :(:( How can I make your sorrowfulness go, even if it was for just the time being,( because you already just had your eye operated) so it wouldn't feel so devastating ?
     
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