Overcoming for good this time!

Hi,

just to clarify: How often do you watch porn and for how long?

 

Hey welcome! I'm terms of advice I would say examine your life and see what are your main areas of stress. The HALT thing certainly is true and those are the points when our willpower is lowest.

I'm like you, I tried all the blocking apps and stuff. It never seemed to help or I already knew how to get around them so I always found my way back. My current streak feels like my best yet since I'm finally turning to community and keeping a close eye on my habits and triggers.

I think one of the most important things to do is examine when are the times you're most tempted to relapse and fap. Start filling your time with activities and coming up with alternatives or limits to reduce on the amount of time you have to rely on willpower to overcome a tempting moment.

Our willpower is finite and having to lean on it for too long will usually just cause us to give in because that feels easier than holding out. Look to accomplish things everyday or as much as possible.

Setting and accomplishing goals also gives our brain a dopamine response and that will help you stay satisfied and focused. Look at things you want to do and accomplish whether that be cooking more or working out or whatever.

This is something I know you can accomplish. Proper planning and precautions go a long way with staying clean and relying less on willpower.

You've got a great resource here and plenty of people with plenty of experience.

 

I just can agree to this. Try to find out what your "favourite porn time, mood etc." is. For me its like 02:00 p.m.; around this time my urges are strongest. Also look what kind of stress it is or what causes it?

 

I can relate to your story, I know there is a place of victory for you. (and for me) I am starting with small steps in my daily routine. This fight is worth fighting, not just for ourselves but for our wives who deserve better than what we have given them so far. Keep fighting!