Rejection hurts

You got her number and your game was rusty, you did well. So it wasn't perfect, hey what do they say, even Jordan lost a few games man. She lost interest - she could already be texting someone else, she could have a Boyf, she might be having a rough time - all things that are not your fault. Some girls play games, me I would move on, say hi, be polite, but don't worry about it.

 

Bro, not to be a jerk...but just want to point out a few things:

So you mentioned that this girl is a coworker.
You also mentioned this is your first job, and a new job ("a week ago") at that.

Keep in mind, first impressions last.

So from a manager's perspective (your boss), she/he sees you come in, do well performance-wise, but then immediately ask one of the employees for her number to start a romantic relationship with her.

From a risk-management perspective, this behavior is a red-flag. Management does not want relationships in the workplace, because typically they can get ugly, and create sexual harassment paperwork (even if you, JedWiley, do nothing wrong, the boss is looking at trends/statistics).

My brother worked at a public pool where many of the summer recruits were young adults, and he had to fire a guy because he hit on the female workers and "made them feel uncomfortable".

Any woman who is a co-worker has the power to say you "make her uncomfortable" to management and boom your ass is fired, especially if you are new there (its called "hostile work environment" and everything is judged by how it made her feel, not your intent). All I am saying is tread lightly....and maybe get to know everyone at work before making any definitive moves.

I don't think you did anything wrong, and I think your game would be very well suited to the club/bar/festival, just be extra careful at the workplace. Especially if its a new workplace and you don't know all the social dynamics.

 

Yeah the workplace use to be THE PLACE to meet your partner, now in the West it is increasingly becoming the place to act like an asexual.

My advice. Take advantage of being around attractive women at your work to just chat with them and get comfortable.

Then in other areas, places where you don't need to show up every day, make some moves on your own terms!

And yes they can be interested in you one day, but not so much the next. This becomes less of an occurrence the more you invest in yourself though. Which is what NoFap is all about. Not to worry.

Plenty of girls out there man. ​

 

nothing is wrong with you. there is a rule given by my common sense that I applied over the years and this has been always the wisest decision. i never dated and got involved in more than a friendship with flatmates or colleagues. i don't date people i would see often in a specific place coz chances are that guy wouldn't last forever and i would still have to see him and then work or being at the house would be a nightmare. as a fantasy it looks cool but believe me it is not

i had recently a crush (makes me feel a 15 year old girl lol, i am 27 though) for a male colleague and we would flirt and smile in a very obvious way. i technically cannot stop myself from smiling to him, i try to stop myself from interacting with him coz it made me s. frustrated coz i imagined what if we kissed etc. things got pretty heated just with the way we look at each other and i know i shouldn't let that happen so next time i will see him at work i will be friendly like with the other colleagues but i will talk with him the minimum and leave the staff room or focus on my tasks

do you care about your job more than this girl? i know i care a lot about my current job and nothing or nobody will get in the way. also in your employment contract sometimes they forbid having romantic/ s. relationships with colleagues because of the mess it can create and the tension in the workplace

i feel too I kinda "lost" it. when i was still a s. and p. addict my flirting skills were at the top while now i feel almost powerless. before, my addictions gave me strenghts to know what to say in pick up a guy I was interested in and being super smooth. but i wouldn't trade my sobriety for this "power". it is still an adjustment i am going through but in August i will celebrate a year pmo free and i am so proud of it

btw at work or anywhere else if you don't say hello or bye they think you are rude and people hate you even if you don't do it once. i don't get it, it is not a big deal btw i would say forget about the girl and don't destroy your job and given she is not very interested in your texts i would say to stop focusing on her. i know rejection hurts but i am sure there are other girls you can connect with that will not mess up your life at work and also colleagues and manager talk behind each other backs. you don't really want your colleagues judging or gossiping about your love/s. life. my advice is to keep your love life separated from your work life

 

It’s not that bad. Remember that you are not the only one that has ever gotten rejected, your friends and relatives all have been through that at some point in their lives and it makes less painful to know that. Hope you are doing alright and don’t let it bring you down.

 

No biggie.
Go for the next girl.

You did your best. AND THAT is celebration, your DID something.

You can always try one more time with this girl, no pressure