I'm abstaining from PMO, but I don't believe in NoFAP

But you don’t know that, not yet, right? So good for you giving it a shot, that’s all one can do. Best of wishes to you and welcome to the site!

 

Great! Who is asking for something else?

 

Believe it! NoFap is a wonderful place where voyers and nosey people can fill up on juicy gossip, the police and FBI can scan for perp pervs of the apprehensible kind, actual genuinely helpless sex addicts can find help and support and provide help and support to other brothers in peril, and God as always can move seamlessly through a place where people are confessing sins and opening up their broken contrite and convicted hearts, which is His weakness! He can't resist if sincere!... to name a few.

What's not to believe? It's superbelievable! I mean, I wouldn't have it any other way to put it arrogantly. That's my strength btw, for which I desperately need help.

I don't believe THAT is possible!

There I answered your question now you help me.

 

I agree with you. Go ahead and good luck.

 

No, I don't think so. I think this might be the problem:

I don't know how to tell you this nicely, but you sound like someone who has a stick up his ass. Which probably means you lack the most important ingredient.
See women respond to charisma, people like Russel Brand for example are full of it, and charisma doesn't come from a place of knowing how to say the right things. It's more like becoming confident in yourself in such a way that you start to playfully tie your idiosyncrasies, your viewpoints, your faults, your desires into a unique package. I know this sentence is like.. whatever, but I'm no poet and I'm sure you got your own idea what charisma is.
But judging by how you describe yourself you seem to be someone who has the reins too tight on himself, not allowing yourself to step off the beaten path, which makes your life stable but at the same time makes you as a person as bland as unseasoned rice. So I'd say it's time to take yourself on an adventure.

 

Social life is one of the most important keys to happiness. I realised this as the past year I've had basically no social life, but before this I had a good social life for my entire life.

Its easy to blame porn for your problems, but the reality is this. It is bad for you and definitely an addiction, so quitting for life is a very wise move. But it wont make you immediately some god. Rejection by women suggests you should work on yourself more.

Good luck

 

You sound like a good guy, and you are living a life which should be conducive to happiness for both your self and others.

I'm definitely not saying porn is the only, or even the most significant issue responsible for your lack of luck with the ladies. In my experience I wouldn't discount it playing a part though. I've been consciously trying to stop for a number of years now. This might sound bizarre but I discovered earlier in the year that I had a number of unconscious thoughts about women, primarily seeing them as mere objects for man's pleasure. Since discovering this my relationship with women has shifted. Meditation seems to have been the tool to do this. It might not be for you but I suggest it as it has greatly helped me.

Best of luck my friend

 

Maybe a religious god, but I have reason to believe that there is a mind behind the universe. Atheists explanation of the universe is too coincidental to be realistic. I still pray and read the Bible even if I don't fully believe it. It puts your mind at ease.

 

It wasn't an attack dude. I don't know whether you actually have a stick up your ass or not. I've worked with what you've written about yourself in the hope to give you an angle to your problem that you maybe didn't consider yet. And I think I'm at least somewhat on the money because you've reacted emotionally which indicates that you're uncomfortable about the subject, which could be because of denial.

You don't deserve nothing. None of us do. You choose a way of life and deal with the consequences.

 

You shouldn't believe in anything. Even people who are religious have reasons for their beliefs.

Second, there's a lot more to life than abstinence. While abstinence alone works well with substance issues (and on those issues alone, up to a point) sexuality is complex. It is like thinking if you stopped eating a couple of foods you got your diet and nutrition fixed. You may have taken care of a big part of it if say you're used to soda instead of water, but we're supposed to eat a lot of different foods.

So I don't believe in Nofap -alone- either. But that position is still not saying anything about what else you want to do doesn't address it comprehensively.

 

1.Going on nofap or achieve x amount of days will not change your personalities unfortunately. What Nofap do is allowing you to gain your manhood back or helping you see what need to be done in order to grow.
2. There are some dudes who naturally good with women and others need to develop the charisma by putting themselves out there like being social and asking women on dates.

 

That's a great list of healthy activities and habits but it doesn't tell us anything personal about yourself. Connecting with other people goes beyond saying "I like clean spaces". What are you passionate about? What are your beliefs? What are your goals and interests? Women don't want a relationship with a walking habit machine, they want a relationship with a person. If a woman came to me with the list you provided I would have said "great, and what makes you different from other women who do the same?"

Don't believe it. There are plenty of porn addicts who can pickup women.

Is it said that? From which credible source did you get this statistic?

Ah the old envy of the pumper and dumper. Anyone else see the irony of a porn addict being envious of a sex addict? Do people honestly believe that way of life is a step towards progress?

Probably because they know how to display their own personality in a way that connects with others.

It's not really luck as it is discipline. Most of the people who give motivations speeches will also tell you to not rely on motivation since it's not something you can earn. Motivation requires zero effort on your part. Discipline requires a ton of effort on your part and creating that is helpful in other areas of life but even that is not all there is to success. You don't believe in what you think NoFap is rather than what NoFap is really about. NoFap never makes any claims that recovery is going to fix all of your problems or straighten all of your paths. This site is simply about recovering from porn because it is the right thing to do.