Sudden loss of Libido and Ed at 31? Questions and need for reassurance

Do not ever "test" your erections, this leads to more problems. You train to get aroused "on demand" rather than on real opportunity of sex.

 

This is a very valid point. There are certain signs that you're healing. I don't have them at hand but I've been experiencing some myself. Morning wood is back, my penis is fuller during the day, I'm even getting increasingly bigger semi erections when taking a long dump....I am also noticing women a lot more, I feel better about myself and have more energy. I'm gonna try to make out with my SO to see if something sturs down south. She's on her period, so there is no pressure for sex

 

I thought I was reading my own story while reading yours. The only difference is I am a 5 years younger than you. I have been watching porn since 15 years old, but never had ED problems with women, however, after falling out of a relationship in early 2018, I hit porn very seriously, and things escalated to weird sh*t that doesn't match my sexual orientation. Early into this year (without knowing about nofap) I decided to quit porn and look for a new relationship. About 30 days after first quitting PMO, I, after getting close with a girl, decided to have relations with her. That night, I lost erection midway through intercourse, but, the following morning I managed to get the job done and we laughed off the incident. However, for the next two months, I couldn't managed to get it up, I didn't even have libido, I didn't know what was happening to me... and things came to an end. I relapsed into PMO in a miserable and pathetic attempt to jumpstart my libido. Around that time I decided to join this forum and consciously fight porn.

Currently, I'm 40 days free of PMO and have been visiting the doctor to discard any physical reasons for my ED (in my journal I keep track of medical checkups), although, at this point I'm pretty certain it is PIED. I have noticed some improvements... I am now having morning wood and nocturnal wood again, not as strong as I would like, but it is better than not having them. Urges for sexual release is slowly returning, so I think I am finally heading out of the flatline, but damn, its hard controlling this when you are abstaining from PMO while being single. I'm far from healed, but I think I am recovering.

I would suggest that you keep free of PMO and don't freak out, things will get better but slowly. Take things one day at a time. Sleep well, eat well, do some exercise, read some books, listen to good music, pursue a hobby, know yourself and know others. You are not alone in this.

 

Well done on your progress! You can be very proud. Looks like your recovery should be quite quick if its only recent PIED development. Enter hard mode and try to do positive changes in your life. Boredom PMO is a real danger as you'll suddenly have a lot more free time. It is crucial for your success that you fill that time with constructive habits like sports, socialising, hobbies, etc.

Let us know when you have sex without ED. I'm sure it'll be soon!

 

Thank you for your encouraging words, friend. I wil definetely report my progress. I also wish an excellent journey towards your success. Keep up the good fight!