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Wrinn · Apr 3, 2015

Question have 20 days no masterbation girl friend want visit me for weekend can I have sex with her normal sex ? I don't have answer can someone help me Thanks Wrinn

scotey73 · Apr 3, 2015

Many guys reboot while still having sex with their girlfriend. Whether or not you think having sex is beneficial for you is totally up to you, my friend.

R92B · Apr 3, 2015

I had sex yesterday and regret it. In my opinion, to do this properly it's about refraining from all aspects of porn, masturbation and orgasm.

Stranglethorn · Apr 4, 2015

It depends on your personal involvement with the stuff. If you're suffering from PIED, by all means, go for it - relearn to be with a real person.

GodMyWitness · Apr 4, 2015

Wrinn said: ↑

Question have 20 days no masterbation girl friend want visit me for weekend can I have sex with her normal sex ? I don't have answer can someone help me Thanks Wrinn
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It's entirely up to you,, but in my opinion I would abstain. Below is an article I've just read about this issue, which recommends to abstain even from sex at least for 30 days:

Is sex with a spouse allowed during this period? That can be a difficult question and may need to be answered by a person’s therapist, someone with an outsider’s view of the struggler’s condition and state of mind.

Dr. Laaser says no. In fact, Laaser requires his patients to sign a 90-day abstinence contract, which means not only no self-sex but also no sex with one’s spouse.

Why? First of all, he says, a person needs to learn that they won’t die without sex, especially for 90 days. But more importantly, the person struggling with pornography or sex addiction needs to work proactively about learning true intimacy.

“The abstinence contract on the front end is entirely about neurochemical detox,” Laaser says. “It’s resetting the brain in terms of sexual expectations. Generally, the 14th day is the wall. As you get past the 14th day, things will get easier.”8

After 30 days of abstinence, an individual will begin to feel more confident. Many people in recovery say that after 30 days they feel more focused in their daily lives and even more energetic.

So, if it takes 14 days to detox and 30 days to begin to gain confidence, why the focus on 90 days of abstinence even with a spouse? It’s all about genuine intimacy. For someone with
an obsessive porn habit or an addiction, the focus has been on personal and immediate gratification. The people in porn are used; the porn user gives nothing. Especially for men, porn equates to selfishness that typically extends to their marital life. This even includes the overemphasis men can have of their sexual performance, pride or fear about their prowess, and where sexual performance is equated to their manliness.

Varying cultural, social, and psychological issues have robbed a porn user of their potential for intimacy. And this 90-day period without sex is an optimal time to learn and grow.
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Wrinn · Apr 5, 2015

Thank you that was very well said I have 21 days nice hear after 14 days get better. Do what it takes didn't have sex with my friend . Still no erctions yet going take time I know this my problem learning lot thanks Wrinn

MAZEN MD · Apr 5, 2015

i think you can , maybe i'm wrong

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