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Welcome to Nofap!! I think you are about to start a new streak of success (no porn or masturbation).

1. You seem to have self-diagnosed yourself very good -- "... need to reboot myself."
2. " … increasingly getting stressed." Yes, stress does suck.
The truth is, you are allowing yourself to get stressed. I do not know what your 'stressors' are. If you are stressed due to financial matters, perhaps get rid of the new sports car[?, etc] for 6-12 mos, etc.) would give you more peace of mind. I've been in debt before -- it is difficult/stressful. Now, I have no debt; and enjoy being creative or resourceful [boiling things down to the actual need] when needs happen. Usually in 1-3 days I see new options.


I think you need to develop a "List of Options" (things you can do when you get stressed.) Here's an article of "4 Tips To Change The Way You Deal With Stress" to start off your list.
https://psychcentral.com/lib/4-tips-to-change-the-way-you-deal-with-stress/

Here's 2 lists I've been working on for a few months. Pick and choose what you like … copy & paste ….. and start your "List of Options."

Benefits of No PMO

1. No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easy to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-3 seconds.
2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
3. No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
4. Increased motivation & energy to get things done.
5. More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
6. No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
7. More time for good/productive things. Not wasting time going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.
8. The opposite gender increasingly becomes less and less of a priority.
9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
10. More Respectable -- (online comment) "if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can generally tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
11. Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness

*Somedays are so-so … and some are difficult due to "flat line". But your daily progress is motivating and inspiring to you & others.

Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations

#1 Secret = When tempted, Get Up and Go Outside/Move to another location [temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with women (or men for females) 6- Go to store and buy yourself a reward/gift/treat (small daily; medium weekly; large monthly) 7- Work on your favorite hobby/passion/interest 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9- Go walk a wonderful dog/cat/horse/llama around the block 10 - Have a "WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Take a break; take a nap (everyone needs an occasional break) 13- "All Things Are Possible" 14 - Positive personal hygiene (brushing teeth; showering) keeps your self-esteem high 15 - Fasting (water only) has many health benefits; a 1/2 day or more fast will help you have more self control 16 Taking it one day at a time, one urge at a time will make your goal manageable & successful." 17 - Use Distractions or Diversions [change the scenery] to help you have Victory over temporary temptations.

You can do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!