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Is waiting for marriage stupid?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Lexie, Jul 31, 2019.

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  1. Lilla_My

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    Anyone is free to read the bible and follow their beliefs. Christianity and spirituality is a beautiful concept and should be embraced.

    But "lemme tell you" that morality is in the heart, mind and soul of a person. I don't need a hymen or even the bible to be eternally faithful to my spouse, thank you very much.

    Additionally, I would absolutely love to see some real peer reviewed scientific research that proves virgins are more faithful in marriage than non virgins...
     
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  2. Beingcowboyishard

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    You don’t need sciencetifc research for that just ask anybody who watches porn or living promiscously before marriage most likely you can find them on nofap group or in reddit

    you can talk anything you want and decide the bible is not relevant anymore but i believe the bible will make you a better man and a better husband,go read the book of proverbs one chapter for the date you are going through
     
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  3. I'm sure @Lilla_My is thrilled with those prospects...
     
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  4. Lilla_My

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    You always need scientific research in matters that can be measured. For example, there are studies that shows non porn viewers to be more faithful than viewers. But how about virgins? And what if the virgin is a porn addict?

    Hmm... Where exactly did I say the bible is not relevant? If it helps you to be a better man, isn't that a good thing?
     
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  5. Lilla_My

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    Yes, I embrace anything that makes someone a better person, including the bible.
     
  6. Hm no science is not the perfect truth and can't read into the people hearths.
    We just need statistics, but everything isnt mesurable.
    Some are virgins because they are too shy or because of pressure from someone.
    Sole are virgins because they are noble and have some virtues. These ones are more likely to be faithful, including the believers that have virtues (i mean true ones) and listen to God orders (because they know that God is more Knowledgeable and wants what is good for us)
     
  7. GaroldG

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    It depends on your mentality and family believes. I think that it's not a good decision to wait. I didn't wait and don't regret
     
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  8. U were lucky and i am happy for you.
    But what if u had a kid and he just ran away (happens frequently)?
     
  9. Hello. This is an interesting post and I enjoyed reading some of the responses. To answer your question simply, I would admire a girl who doesn’t want to have sex before marriage and I would date someone with that mindset as well. I would be more interested in the reason why though (same as if someone already had sex). I personally believe waiting is for the best because of reduced risk of disease and unplanned or unwanted pregnancy, as well as wanting to give your partner something special. However, as I saw some other comments, I agree it is about the person’s mindset. Is a virgin porn addict who is into some gross stuff make a difference as compared to a non-virgin who has a cleaner mind? I think it would make a difference.

    Also, you may not believe it now, but try not to compare yourself to your friends. Everyone comes along at their own pace and time. Don’t feel the pressure or hop in bed with the first guy who is interested because all of your friends have had sex and you don’t feel ready. I can guarantee at least a few of your friends will regret having sex when they did when they get older...if they don’t already feel that way but won’t admit it.

    Just stay true to yourself and do what you feel is best for you and when.
     
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  10. SilentJay313

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    In my personal opinion, no. Although a lot of people in my area make a huge ordeal out of it, it isn't something to be worried about. I'd just rather wait for someone who I like and care about, and dodge any std's and unwanted children out of wedlock. I've seen some family members get themselves in situations where they had a kid out of wedlock and the girl who had the child screw them over in court, even though they wanted to be there for the kid. Although I haven't really had many female friends, I'm not too concerned at this point. I'll probably end up dating later on when I move out of my hometown. So in the end, it's up to you.
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  11. Beingcowboyishard

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    You are hung by your tounge understand
    Your previus post says morality is in the heart, mind and soul of a person.
    But when i bring the bible you immediately swticthed to scientific stuff research to judge wheter virgins are better or not


    You are doomed bro
     
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  12. Lilla_My

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    I'm not doomed, and I'm certainly not a bro. I'm saying there is nothing wrong with being a Christian or to wait for marriage, if that's your personal preference.

    That alone just does not make anyone better or cleaner than others, I'm sorry. Because morality is in the heart, mind and soul.

    There are people who didn't wait for marriage who are loving faithful partners because they made the conscious choice to be decent people. If the bible helps you or anyone else to be the best you can be than that's a good thing, congratulations.

    One can simply just not say that virgins are more faithful partners without showing a shred of evidence that the statement is true. Show me some scientific facts, because if you can read the complicated texts in the bible I'm pretty sure you can go on PubMed, no?

    If I wanted to marry someone, I'd much rather go with a guy that might have had previous monogamous relationship that, despite the best intentions, didn't work out, rather than some self righteous virgin with crispy sheets that watches paid prostitution online every chance he gets BUT demands his future wife to be some kind of saint.
     
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  13. "I would like to see a sober, moderate, chaste, fair man, to say that there is no God: he would speak at least without interest. But this man is not found."
    La Bruyère, french philosopher of the century of enlightenment
     
  14. Beingcowboyishard

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    Keep searching that probably you’ll find someone like donald trump who commited adultery
    Your whole idea about being virgin has been perverted
    Being virgin is a good thing even if that person watches porn or masturbates period!!!
    Does that mean i am advocating that no!!! But you are not down too low and you can be free from thouse actions
    god created sex and sex is to connect spirit,soul,and body so living promiscuously will defile your body and make you most likely unfaithful in marriage
     
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  15. Beingcowboyishard

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    Because everyone knows there is god even a virgin at 40 years old
     
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  16. No offense but could you keep this god stuff to yourselves? Nearly every fucking thread here gets infested with religious prattle nobody asked for.
     
  17. Beingcowboyishard

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    I would but the problem is i am not atheist so maybe it’s you need to accept that fact
     
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  18. EXPONENTIALLY

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    Quoting God's word isn't religious, it's like quoting a very legit document that accounts for events and regulations. You have your own free will and the ability to make decisions for yourself. What's the point being a frustrated obscene troll here, nothing. At least bring something to the table instead of trying to criticize for no reason. Silly.
     
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  19. I have no intention nor need to stop you from having imaginary conversations with your imaginary friend. Do it all you like! But kindly restrain yourself a bit when posting. There's no reason for you and others like you to pollute every discussion on here, no matter how unrelated, with masturbatory sentences regarding your idol. This forum is starting to resemble a fucking Bible fanclub. You guys are worse than vegans and Crossfitters put together!
    @EXPONENTIALLY I've nothing to say to you except that you calling somebody else a troll is the best joke of the season. Make sure that tinfoil hat on your head fits so that the extraterrestrials can't read your thoughts.
     
  20. Beingcowboyishard

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    Dude!!! God loves you I was an atheist like you i was stupidly believing there was no god,even if he existed all i see was an agry god ready to punish us
    But he is not like that,if you wanna see what god is really like “look at jesus”
     
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