Semen Retention is bullshit, emissions are inevitable

There’s always good and there is always misinformation, its about figuring out what actually work or not.

 

No nocturnal emissions on my end either. People will try and debunk anything, can’t be bothered. Never been as STRONG inside and out since I started my journey.

 

I won't let one of the few decent threads in this section fade into obscurity.

 

Focussing purely on “continence” without its motives & consequences,is,I believe, doing injustice to the cause itself. So I got few bullets from my own experiences-(&please consider this-I am new to NoFap)

1. Have some higher purpose(to try to want to avoid PMO & nocturnal emissions) as avoiding all this has to be guided by something bigger than our existence so far.(& at least those resultant achievements wont harm you)
2. Not doing artificial physical stimulation of all kinds is just a small part of success story. Other essential parts are- Not thinking(mental continence),satvik food(there is a list of positive & negative pranic food,I guess everyone knows), eating & sleeping at right times, keeping right company, reading right literature, right entertainment, biggest-making best use of(own company)- loneliness.
3. If we have come down to feel the need for cold showers, may I opine-its time to re-begin the streak, the time to fail is around the corner.
4. If you are religious, it wont harm your purpose, don’t worry, go for it.
5. It’s just a path,I reiterate, the purpose has you once you are on right path. A right path is one which has least hinderances & our sacred journey here does impart us that ability by-all those benefits which you have read across forums here & might have experienced.
6. If the list above seems a burden to you instead of encouragement, I for one would doubt your willingness to undertake this transformation.

Before coming to this beautiful thoughtful forum,I tried(&failed of course) my own ways to do this & may I list few benefits that I have enjoyed & for the want of which I am ready to devote any amount of resources and time-
1. I could avoid bothering small annoyances from people.(Not because of any magic but I could proactively feel this new enhanced ability to detach myself almost always from the situation I am in to & think what my purpose needed me to do instead of giving in to anxiety/anger/impulses and react.)
I could identify and restrain any of my ill thoughts at any moment and do the right thing.
It also gave me “temperance” at everything. God I love it. I am such a bad person without it.
2. Visual clarity as Photophobia gone after ~10 days of No PMO streak. I cant see properly several days after I O. Dark sunglasses are my only survival.(being a doctor I read about POIS medical research on nih website and trust me I don’t fully agree with what science knows about it so far)
3. Sleep reduced. I feel less sleepy and could wake through day without tea/coffee. Its helping with my studies so helping with my happiness quotient.
4. Stamina. Undeniably. Can run longer, push through painful last reps.
Guys, it wont do a magic to take us to excellence, rather its just the(only) path to be bigger than who we are right now, where you can begin things a bit more tirelessly. And thats good enough for me.

 

You lucky you have them so frequent. I wish I had them that frequent mines is usually every 2 weeks. Sometimes 3 or 4 days apart then the pattern of 15 days kicks in. How old are you?

 

I know I get them too just not frequently but thats cuz I am older. As you age they will become less frequent. A lot of guys envy you and wish they can be in your shoes instead of relapsing frequently. Acept them as your reminder that you have conquered another day of pmo. Please keep up fighting the battle and dont hate them your doing a great job.

 

I had one where I saw the word "B**bs" written in a 90's 3D white letters on a black background. I woke up very confused.

 

Guess you like boobs in 3D? I would be confused too. Wet dreams are funny, you will literally dream of any crazy shit and wake up with your underwear full of semen. So brush it off bro cuz you just receive an award.

 

I started masterbating from the age when there were no fluid excretion. So I never knew about nocturnal emissions. When I started my journey of nofap after sporadic streaks of 30+, 15+, sometimes 10+, highest 65days for 2 years now. I for the first time in my life experienced nocturnal emission and that too in the age of 25. I remember I was in a streak of 30+days and I was torturing my brain by watching soft porn type videos on youtube and abstaining from masterbating, which led filth to take over my brain and at night I was seeing myself as the protagonist of the music videos I was watching in the day doing filthy things to those scantily clothed maidens.
What I am trying to say is, nocturnal emissions are the results of filth in your mind, and celibate life's main agenda is to reboot this filth. Sexual energy is innate in every human being, now the filth is something which destroys brain. I believe you experienced so many nocturnal emissions in your celibate journey because the connection of your brain with filth was not weakened. Sole reason which I can perceive is over indulgence in sexual activity. Porn affects brain, but over indulgence in sexual activity with an actual human being is also fatal, the memories of these moments remain vivid for years, and when you abstain making your brain dopamine deprived your sub conscious mind shows you your those moments of filth when you are sleeping, and hence nocturnal emissions.

 

@kingbob3 I see you got some insight on dreams. Man.. I have been dreaming about transwoman 2-3 times in the begging of my current streak. You don't know how relax I was when I dream about a girl 2 nights ago. Man.. I have never ever in my life touched porn which is not straight and more extreme that I would actually do. And still..

 

Of course semen retention is better than ejaculating for no good reason other than to entertain yourself. I remember the bad old days of ejaculating multiple times a day everyday for god knows how long and how awful it made me feel in regards to energy and overall health.

I remember a couple of years ago reading about sexual transmutation and that as we age the more we masturbate and ejaculate the higher the toll it takes on our bodies. It said for a man in his 30's he should only ejaculate once a week if it's a must, whereas a teenage could ejaculate once a day. I have to admit I had noticed as I aged and got into my 30's that ejaculating multiple times a week and especially multiple times a day took a huge toll on my overall health, especially mental health.

Frankly, our private parts were made to produce off spring with and not to treat yourself to an amusement park ride whenever you feel like it. A higher more enlightened self doesn't need to succumb to unnecessary temptations that provide no benefit to ones life.

 

Just remember that the way the body works is that when your body realizes it needs to release which one of the ways is through a wet dream it will happen with a dream or not. Your genitals could send signals to your brain while you sleep and have a dream of any kind, if you have a dream at all cuz some cases you just don't have a dream. Its not really a result of filth its more a result of that you produce testosterone and sperm back up, simple science. Dreams do not make you have wet dreams, it would appear so,its your body cuz you are way too full of sperm and/or having fluctuations in your testosterone. Remember this was thought in Hygiene or Health class, if not look it up in Webmd.

 

its all in your brain man. and we are capable of taming it. so why not. lets be on the drivers seat.

 

Good post, I too have had various levels of sexual "sobriety" before finding NoFap. I like the secular perspective bc I was burned out on 12 step, religion etc. As you said, the truth is the more desire you have go rise above mediocrity the better results we'll see. Additionally, I used to have some weird sense that sober time was some magic pill. So there was some expectation that some day I would start walking on air or something, and girls would would all bet DTF and money would just flow into my bank account.

The real question is, why would I want it to be that easy? We don't value whats easy and so often it goes away just as easily as it came. I told my buddy that recently, if she's easy for you she's gonna be easy for someone else.

Fair winds

 

yup the battle is in the brain. Resist urges, you will make it. Just put in your head " I don't want to waste my semen". Think about how you have to restart all over plus how are you going to feel. Is it worth it for a 10 min pleasure all by yourself??? really???. If you think about all of this during a fap session it will ruin the moment and you will get soft and stop.