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Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Lilla_My, Feb 1, 2019.

  1. Advocate109

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    Thank you very much but my girlfriend has no compulsive issue with porn and we have no physical issues in the bedroom when we dont view it.
     
  2. Lilla_My

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    She doesn't, yet. But you come on here talking about moderate porn consumption like you knew it will always turn out great, which you have no idea of. It might, and it might not.

    Maybe you are on some liver cirrhosis forum and preaching about how the occasional prosecco is all good and dandy, but for those who've lost everything due to alcoholism, it might not be so well received.
     
  3. Advocate109

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    No im saying my girlfriend isnt on this form because she doesnt have an issue with it. She doesnt watch it every day or even every time she masturbates. I feel like youre attacking me when all i tried to say was maybe this guy is just a dick and not a porn addict. No need to get defensive.
     
  4. Ges852

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    I see you are trying to help @Advocate109 but some people on here are losing everything in their life because of PA. I am not just talking about SO's but there are many stories on here from PA's that have lost everything and they believe this is down to their porn addictions. You can understand how people could get defensive.
    If a guy had an alcoholic addiction and was abusive and violent to his SO. Would you say maybe he is just a dick and not an alcoholic addict?
    You are lucky if you have found a way to manage this in your relationship, it sounds like you are both very open and can deal with it. There are many people on here that are not so lucky, and porn addiction has destroyed their lives. Please do not feel like anyone is attacking you on here, I hate seeing that in threads but we have to realise that we are not all coming from the same angle as others and we have to be sensitive to the different degrees of addiction on here.
     
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  5. Lilla_My

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    I hope she is honest with you. More so, I hope she is honest with you further down the road.

    Dick? Well I think you are on to something there. He wasn't always, though.

    So if he is not an addict... then how come he was in flatline for ten weeks when he stopped? Dead junk, severe anhedonia. Had never happened before. Completely healthy otherwise, fit as a fiddle, muscular, strong, young... But spiritually and sexually completely dead.
     
  6. Queenie%Bee

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    Someone using again CAN become those things as well . That was my tell this last time . Dead D , Dead personality, Dead Dead Dead
     
  7. Advocate109

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    You said that he himself said he didnt like sex soo maybe thats it?
    All im saying is im a heavy porn compulser and i dont emotionally or physically neglect my loved ones and i would never blame porn on it if i did. If i did, I'd be a dick.
     
  8. Advocate109

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    Hed be a dick who is addicted to alcohol.
    But even so, alcohol is known to make people prone to violence while porn is prone to make people horny and depressed, not violent and emotionally abusive.
     
  9. Ges852

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    Really, so you think people that become depressed cannot become violent or emotionally abusive, or are the just also dicks that are depressed?
     
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  10. Advocate109

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    No depression ive seen has ever become violent. Maybe diagnosed bipolar disorder.
    So yeah theyd be dicks which are depressed because depression doesnt make you violent.
     
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    Quitting porn wouldnt fix the asshole that lies in this guy.
     
  14. Queenie%Bee

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    There are other forms of abuse that are indeed harmful . Are you aware a heavy “porn consumer” / addict can indeed become so lost in fantasy that he winds up using force with sex in his marriage causing physical and emotional pain ? That’s abuse . Now I’m not saying every PA would do this . I also can tell you a PA can become VERY irritable , loud , aggressive and out of control when he hadn’t been able to get to his drug of choice ? I’m not saying every PA does this either , just like NOT every alcoholic is an angry , violent one . I know of one . Very passive, lazy , tired alcoholic .
     
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  15. Ges852

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    I didn't know that you have never seen it before. Lucky you.
     
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  16. Ges852

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    Great reference, i really see you have done your research into this field. I love people that can find an artical on the internet to prove they are right. Well done, the article proves that they must just be dicks then as it is impossible for someone to become violent if they are depressed. So i presume you have that other article that also proves that porn addiction does not make you become violent. Is it from the same website by any chance?
     
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  17. melonka

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    Porn use gets you out of balance. If you are prone to being a dick you may have control over you when you're balanced, but if not you get dangerous.
    Mood swings, more irritable was the first thing I noticed at my man that I saw as consequence of porn. It gets you more frustrated of the world, people, yourself. When he feels frustrated he doesn't want to talk to anyone and gets irritable over small things. When I pushed to hard he got mad and smashed door. Or something. It didn't happen often and that's what normal person does when he goes way beyond the balance. And he usually didn't watch violent porn. But for normal person it needs much more to get that out of balance. You get out of balance, your OCD gets stronger.
    That guy when he gets out of balance cause of frustration and selfhatred tries to destroy people.
    Now, are you OCDer? Or does porn make it to you? It brings up the worst tendencies.
     
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  18. Lilla_My

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    It's not so much the depression as it is the lack of empathy and lack of self control that might turn a porn addict violent. Of course, a person like that might be prone to violence from before, but able to restrain himself when mentally strong.

    Many users stop to eventually give a shit. I think this might be the most prominent feature of anhedonia (dopamine imbalance).
     
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  19. QuittingPMOforever

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    @Advocate109 This is supposed to be self improvement forum, but a lot of people turned it into something totally different

    They are all about P, quitting only P is nothing, most nofap superpowers comes from semen preservation, yet they are here judging everyone xD "you are addict" if you do 14 days of hard mode / semen preservation / karezza you have way more superpowers then they do becouse they are thinking it is all about P and its ok to M after 90 days, which is far from truth

    Person who life happy, fullfillment life or at least have life wont come on this forum looking where they can argue and get epilepsy haha
     

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