Porn has changed me, I don’t even want a relationship now

Have you rebooted yet?

 

I wish I would have had someone in my life to speak to me the way (when i got up to 400lbs) I'm about to write to you. Please don't think me cruel.....but....quit your whining and get your butt in gear, there are so many whiney, defeatist betas on here, that just love bathing in pity. Be an alpha for F sakes. Lose weight, clean up diet, go to gym. Quit being the one to roll over and kick yourself at the same time. I wish I could find each one of you guys, slap you right across your face and hold you in front of a mirror until you admit how powerful you could be when you stop allowing yourself to be a victim.

 

This can change. I had sex for the first time without being on porn when I was 28 years old. Prior to this, I had a lot of sex, but it was different. I was on cia and via, and it was purely for pleasure and gratification, using the women like objects.

You'd be amazed at how fast your body can change. Literally, I'd say even with a month of no porn, you'll be able to perform with women and it will be a much different type of sex. A lot more intimacy, connection, and like a deep soul connection. It can still be really good and pleasurable, and even kinky, but you'll just feel it at a much deeper level.

Also, I can't say I disagree with damnnation's reply. You really do need to get your ass in gear. You're 26 years old, it's time to work your ass off on recovery, get clean, and get a real girlfriend. You're running out of time bro. This may hit you hard, like a punch in the stomach, but you need to accept it if you ever hope to grow from it. Life is extremely hard. Us men are such utter pussies in today's day in age. If this was even a couple hundred years ago, we'd get shamed and beaten for being so fucking pussy about things. We gotta just man up. Life is fucking hard, so hit back. When you get dropped, get back up and start hitting, hit hard, and don't stop hitting. It's time that all of us men start taking responsibility and getting our shit together. We're all with you bro. We're all behind you here. We want you to succeed, and you can succeed. Just get a little bit better every day. Even if it's not a 90-day streak right now, you know that is your goal and your vision and you are working towards it.

But, as far as the PIED, it goes away, faster than you'd think, guaranteed. Don't hesitate to reach out for anything and good luck brother.

 

Keep calm and stop this shit. You don't need PMO anymore. After some time you will understand yourself better and then you will be able to evaluate your problems and beliefs.

 

Ok, first, read posts from guys in their 30s that stayed addicted to this stuff. It's not pretty. Don't let it be you. As far as living with your parents, everyone lives with their parents. It's too damn expensive nowadays. Obviously, I recommend studying business, going back to school, whatever you have to do to better yourself. Nofap will provide this. Believe me, when you are off this trash your body will naturally do what it was meant to do, have a family and provide for it. But also, living with your parents won't stop you from getting a girl, and having a place won't get you a girl. When I was your age, I had the hottest girlfriend imaginable, and we both lived with our rents. I fucked her about 1000 times at my parents' house and the same amount at her house. Now, I actually own a house and it's not like girls find out you have a house and just fuck you, they literally don't care. Believe me. All they care about is personality. Do you click with them on a personality level, that's literally it. Nofap will give you what you need to attract a girl. I recently put together my first 30 day streak of my life. I went from no confidence with girls to insane confidence with girls literally in 30 days. I went from feeling like I don't deserve a girl to girls don't deserve me - in 30 days. Just focus on recovery and making small improvements daily. Eventually, you'll reach your goals and start putting streaks together. The progress with your life (health, wealth, relationships) will match stride for stride with your streak lengths. I guarantee it.

One last thing. Sex is natural. Porn takes this and throws it out the window. When you are completely porn free, your body will naturally do what it was born to do. It's like walking. You'll be better than guys who have experience but are still on P.

 

Be patient, don't make any of these perverse totally sick things that you have seen on Porn Sites. This is not sex. Btw. not even 1% of women would want to be treated like that. Give yourself a time, do workout, work on your life, don't concentrate on getting a relationship. Never Watch Porn, never masturbate.
After some time you will reset your brain. You will feel sexual arousal when you see good looking women. Then you still resist and start making friends. And then eventually, when it happens, you will be ready.
Never ever watch Porn again.

 

Good luck on your recovery. I want to say there is nothing wrong staying with your parents and have no relationship prior. Just being geuine and be yourself. Your selling point is your character not your status. If the girl is looking for status im sure you dont really want her anyway. Good luck.

 

Believe me, dude, it doesn't matter. If moving out is a goal for you though, definitely pursue it. If I could do it all over again, I'd stay with my rents for life haha. Fuck having a mortgage. But you're right. I felt the same way and that's why I moved out.

As for the relationship experience, definitely don't lie about it. I've made that mistake. Not a good idea at all. I would take the approach of not talking about it. I have a ton of relationship and sex experience which is pretty evident by my actions, how I behave, how I am in bed, and so on, but I still don't talk about my past relationships, or the girl I'm dating's past relationships. It leads to bad feelings and jealousy in every circumstance. Make it a rule to not talk about previous relationships. If she asks, say, "I make it a rule to not talk about past relationships as a matter of respect for the girls I'm dating, and out of respect for me, I expect you to do the same." This is mature, respectful, and alpha. Use it. You won't regret it.

They're not going to worry if you haven't had relationships or relationship experience. It's all in your head. Believe me, dude, they literally don't care. It's all about the connection you have with them - that's literally it. I can remember dating the hottest girl ever and I lived with my parents, worked at planet fitness (at 24 years old), was a pothead, and had no career or nothing going for me.

The only reason they would care is the only reason you should care - you will make mistakes in your first few relationships. It takes time to make mistakes and learn from them in order to be a better partner. This is all the more reason to get out there and get some experience. But don't worry about what they think, it's irrelevant. Odds are, they don't have any experience either.

I've actually dated multiple girls who weren't compatible with me because I have so much experience and confidence. I know how it feels. It feels like shit. I can remember my first girlfriend and how she was so experienced and I wasn't. It made me feel inadequate. They feel the same way when dating a guy with a lot of experience. You just have to make them feel comfortable and what better way than by not intimidating them in the first place? They want a guy who is going to cherish them and stand by them in the long term, not a player who will dump them at the first opportunity because he has access to other girls.

Lastly, the best solution to these insecurities is to just abstain from porn and go out and get experience. By abstaining from porn, you already rocket past guys who have experience because porn will ruin their relationship ability guaranteed - especially from a girls perspective. Also, go out and get experience and the feelings of being inadequate and not having experience will vanish. The same can be said for moving out. So use it to motivate you to get experience, quit porn, move out, and accomplish all of your goals.