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Desensitivity to women by porn of transsexuals / sex with transsexuals.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Kev155, Sep 15, 2019.

  1. King Tut

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    agree minus the part to reject all thoughts and fantasies. i did this with TS after i got addicted to the porn and it backfired on me bad. i became completely numb and would have hard time getting turned on because it was my sexuality at the time. just do everything else but DO NOT suppress your sexuality. let your fantasies flow. whatever you fantasize on NOFAP, it is what you ultimately desire at this time. but that can always change. because as i said, sexuality is fluid. DO NOT FORCE IT IN ANY WAY TOWARDS ANY DIRECTION!
     
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  2. parad0x

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    Had a date with a legit 9/10 the other night. I actually wasn't worried about having an O as I didn't expect that on a first date usually.

    Well I ended up taking her home for some serious bedroom action that night and again in the morning. So def don't have PIED which is a relief.

    Anyway she seems to have ghosted me. For what reason I'll never know, I thought it went well.

    Oh well least I got laid. Lol next.
     
  3. ultrafabber

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    Sexuality is not fluid. Sexuality is about reproduction. Sexuality however can go down different and disturbing paths. There are even people aroused by cars.

    Trans fetish in particular is obviously porn induced as many here have already confirmed.
     
  4. King Tut

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    way to not understand a single word i said.

    not always. some guys get into it through experimenting with sex irl. those guys are more likely going to be in it for longer and may never change their 'fetish' unless they try something else that makes them more excited. this is because they have an actual experience and not just looking at pics.
     
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  5. Kev155

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    Idk mate but I have a 100% erection with some girls and I had a real good sex with them, and I choose girls and no transexual anymore, im doing no pmo im in day 10, and I cant stop thinking about to get sex with one of my friends (girl) who I got a really good sexual experience, but I dont want because I want to get good sex with any girl I choose, not only with a bit of them, any advice to complete the 90 days of no orgasm? (I dont see porn or masturbate anymore in my life but I think I need to no orgasm too at leats 90 days) day 10 and its hard I want to fuck a girl :c. Thanks for the replys my brothers, I really apreciatte. Blessings
     
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  6. hardowner

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    I don't know if the TS women you have sex are pre or post op, but you might be aroused by anal sex.
     
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  7. Kev155

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    What means pro or post op? Im peruvian my english is the basic only. I dont think that my fetish is a al sex, because when I enjoy the sex with girls I dont want to penetrate them in her ass, I enjoy doing sex with them in her pussies.
     
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  8. hardowner

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    Pre op is the TS that still has her male genital. Post op TS has surgically converted them into female.
    I've been in Peru in the past. Very few people spoke english there, but you speak quite well...
     
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  9. King Tut

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    it's PRE-OP (pre operation) vs POST-OP (post operation). stop confusing the guy who barely speaks english...
     
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  10. King Tut

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    fighting with yourself, trying to 'prove' that you like women when in actuality your TS fetish wins won't do you any good. all you're doing is suppressing your sexuality. so yes, embrace it. that's the only way you'll ever have a chance of it leaving you, if it ever does. but i have a theory that this fetish will stay with you for the rest of your life. you can kick and scream and call it a disorder, but what good will it do at the end?

    and you sound like you don't understand anything about this fetish. or maybe you're just a guy who's still stuck in stage 1: denial.
     
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  11. Man don't listen to this King Tut guy, this stuff goes away. I read similar stories of guys that had sex with ts and then after abstinence the fetish dissapeared, so don't worry you will be fine if you quit porn.
     
  12. ultrafabber

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    I don't even have a TS disorder. And again, it is a disorder, calling TS a "fetish" is like calling zoophilia a "fetish". Why do you need to defend it so much?
     
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  13. To me your story sounds like someone who still hasn't decided yet.
    On one hand you would like to have a family with a wife and children.
    On the other hand you would like to have fun with transwomen.
    You cannot have both. If you get a wife, treat your ED and secretly go out with transwomen, it will eventually destroy our relationship because you cannot build up trust when you are hiding something.

    Maybe you don't know what you really want. You have to find out first. You can do this by listening to your inner self, writing down your thoughts and not judge on yourself. Once you know, and you decide that you want a family, ditching transwoman sex will be easier.
    Or maybe this is your thing (although it sounds Porn induced to me, but I cannot know).
    Then you will have to build a relationship with a trans.

    Question: when you have sex with transwomen, do you prefer to be active or passive? I think this is an interesting question to begin with. I think when you like to be passive than there might be a hidden insecurity or a wish to be dominated. Would it excite you if a true woman is more dominant? What is it that you like about transwomen? Do they have to be feminized? Do they have to have a big cock? Are you actually interested in a trans personality or is it just physical?
    If a woman put on a strap-on, would be just as much fun for you, or is it something you would like to try out?

    Either way, I don't believe that polygamy can actually make you happy. So for a fulfilled life, there must be ONE true and 100% relationship.
     
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  14. King Tut

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    that's what many men end up doing. go fuck transgendered people when their wife is out of town. and 85% of them are bottoms. but what do I know right? this "disorder" goes away as long as you do your NOFAP...
     
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  15. Not sure what you mean. How does this relate to my post?
     
  16. Who told you, that you HAVE to make no PMO? You can try no PM. The most important thing is to no longer watch Porn. Then you should no longer masturbate as this conditions your brain to a sex behavior that is very different from real sex (you're holding your dick in you hand, you move way faster and you end up in your hand, you're alone).
    Not having orgasms is another topic. This is because many guys ejaculated several times a day and they have drained their body, their hormones are out of balance. So not jerking off will restablish some balance.

    To me this sounds more optimistic than your initial post. You want to "fuck" a woman, you're horny. If no PMO is your goal, then you have to deal with it! Urges will get better, I was much more in control after about two weeks.
     
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  17. King Tut

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    in 2 ways
    1) u can have both if u chose to
    2) many men who claim like op is saying how he likes women JUST AS MUCH end up being cheating husbands to quench their TS fetish that never truly goes away. but then again, it may.

    my point is, if it was that easy to get rid of this "disorder", why would all these husbands go with ts escorts when their wives would be outta town?
     
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  18. I disagree. You cannot have both. You can only have a monogam relationship. All the rest is just fun and an easy exit to build up a sustainable relationship. So far I haven't seen any long-term polygame relationship. I also worked in many polygam countries and there are HUGE problems because of that. Family are torn apart, people kill each other because of some jealousy. You challenge values our society is built on. And it just worked overwhelmingly well for 2000 years.

    2. I don't know that. Maybe they just haven't taken a choice or they escape in to porn and get in a spiral of fetish.
    Myself, I had gay fantasies when I was 8, but they quickly faded. Only when I started to watch excessively porn and anal scenes I developed interest in passive anal and eventually transwomen and finaly gays.
    After more than 80 days of NoFap, this dropped to almost zero.
    You're making a strong claim to say that this guy is in Transsexuals, based on some brief post, from a person who is not even speaking in his native language. Read on, he claims interest for both: women and transwomen. Telling him that he should just go for it, although he doesn't know what to do, is pretty steep from my point of view.
    You don't know this guy, don't push him into something that maybe is, or maybe not, his sexuality. You might make him loose many years living out a lie he convinced himself into.
     
  19. King Tut

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    when did i ever tell him to "go for it?"

    i hung out in the trans community for a while, without directly having any sex. weird, i know. and i've seen this myself. so i speak from experience. reason why i think this isnt just porn induce for him, is cuz he actually went out regularly and had sex with ts girls. and he admitted he enjoyed it. so its not just porn alone. that being said, he went 1 extra step that he cant just take back. i merely said that he and he alone will know in the end what he really likes. and that if it's ts, not to freak out and run away. that will just suppress his sexuality.

    and it's different for every guy. for you it may have been just a porn phase, for other guys it's a strong sexual fetish that stays with them for the rest of their life. so like i said, you and you alone know what you like in the end.
     
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  20. Kev155

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    Nope mate, I always the active, I dont excite with dominate transwomen or girls, I always want to be the dominate, dont even interested in them large or short penis, idk I think the most thing I excited about transwomen is the thing they are like 95% of times, so horny about sex they are whores in the bed and always want to fuck, that thing excited me so much, most of my best experiences with girls were when they are so hornys to have sex too, I thing thats the principal reason, I when they are whores, and the penis idk I think its more depareved to fuck a girl with a penis. I stop watching por and fapping months ago, but the urges to have sex with trannys doesnt go, thats the reason I want to do no orgams too, but its too hard I failed three times, always in between day 10-15. In the first and second week with no pmo I going so horny about getting sex with girls, but I can controle it with dificulty. But in the week 3-4 I getting feel extremely Horny to having sex with a transwomen and I fall :(. IDK I want a healthy monogamy relationship with a girl, thats why I continúe trying. Blessing my brothers, thanks for your comments and again, sorry for the basic english.
     

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