The Origin of Femdom

i can relate to that....even my past was kinda similar to yours

 

Is it truly possible to become Alpha? I spoke with this other dude and had a chat about this concept in detail. I think that your tendencies are congenital. Fetishes seem to work in the exact opposite direction. They're not at all who you truly are but what is taboo to you even subconsciously. So it is possible to analyze the personality based on the fetishes developed after porn use. Now I'm not suggesting porno is the way to knowing oneself. What I am saying is this; is it truly possible to rid yourself of these innate tendencies that you have? Childhood experiences are a good example. I'm no Freudian. I think his work was a load of crap but the way you respond to those experiences is the true reflection of the real you.

 

you can't completely get rid off it...i have had feet fetish before i even started watching porn but all the other weird fetishes were porn induced and after staying clean for 171 days in the last 190 days i'm slowly starting to get attracted to normal vanilla sex...i can see the light on the other side..you dont need to complicate a lot...just stay away from porn and let nature take care of your brain in rewiring...i have gotten rid off many weird fetishes..you name any i've had all of it but feet fetish is something i had it from early childhood days and that is something i have to learn to live with it and even my gf is okay with me playing with her feet and but unlike previously where only femdom turns me on...i have even taken part in sessions twice but now i'm actually getting attracted to normal sex and i know this is just the begining but all i can say is there is hope...just make sure not to feed your brain femdom stuffs

 

Low Serotonin makes sense to me. But little gray matter? You mean femdom addicts are dumb? That I don't buy.

 

I'm not saying they're dumb, it depends on the region of the brain. Low gray matter in the amygdala is linked to sexual perversions.

 

That's exactly it. Discipline is what must be practiced. One would pounce upon the first opportunity of getting to watch porno again if he had been doing it with the help of porn blockers. Discipline and full understanding is the permanent solution.

 

Anyone have a success story as far as beating this shit?

 

There are success stories who battled it. And indeed it can be surely stopped as any other fantasy or gained fetish. As we brainwashed ourselves with pornography contents, we can brainwash ourselves with the rebooting and factual healthy materials.

 

It's been a tough addiction for me to quit, I've had femdom fantasies most of my life and been watching porn since 15 or so..almost exclusively femdom / findom / humiliation with some girl/girl thrown in. I'm 35 now. I've been working on quitting since March of this year and I feel like I've been making progress through the year. I've been addicted for so long, it's not realistic to expect an easy fix. Everytime I fail/relapse, I just keep trying again. I will not give up until I'm over this addiction.

I recently destroyed/disposed of a massive femdom hard drive I've had and been saving stuff on for 10 years. I've wanted to get rid of it for a while, but was never able to do it. That was a big step toward healing. As of now, I've gone 5 full days without watching any kind of femdom clip and am usually able to go a few days at a time without it. I know it's not much, but It's a big improvement from the daily hours-long binges I was doing. I feel like I can beat it.

 

WOW. Thank you very much for the intellectual post. Great insight here.

 

That symbol of the snake appears in masonic symbolism and the eye of horus looks like the limbic system funnily enough. And another thing is the upright triangle is the symbol of masculinity (upside down one represents femininity).

 

I know exactly what you mean. My parents were the same way, and as far as I've observed, just about everybody in the civilized world treats their children like this now (to varying degrees of extremity of course). To me its the most profoundly pathetic behavior to poison the self-worth of your own children. The mystery that keeps me occupied nearly every waking moment is why people do this, how they could fall into such deep levels of stupidity.

From what I have observed, civilization robs people of two types of power which are birthrights for a human: the power over our own impulses (losing this power is what led some of us to be compulsive masturbators) and the power over your own life (i.e., you grow, hunt, or forage for your own food, and move through the world on the strength of your own legs). This lifestyle that we live, we yield to every infantile impulse. We dance to the tune of petty bureaucrats so that we can be fed and sheltered by them. We speed all over the place in these ridiculous fossil-fuel burning death-machines because our planet has been covered in concrete. This is a life of pure degradation. Civilization is degradation. It turns us into man-children. So, when one of these 'common rabble' types has a child (and they do, because sex is sense pleasure, which is all that matters to these people), they become giddy like a toddler on Christmas morning, because they finally have a creature that they can exercise power over. So instead of giving their children love, they revel at their ability to degrade something in the same way they have been degraded. It's like avenging ourselves for what's been done to us, but instead of using our energy to rebel against the system, we take it out on the children.

But honestly, how stupid can a person be, to think that this is going to get them anywhere? Maybe shouting at your son or daughter gives you a type of rush, you feel big and powerful picking on a child, maybe almost like when you hit the sweet spot your first time drinking alcohol. Then it turns into a habit of diminishing rewards, and you become nothing more than a pathetic deadbeat that picks on your own children. It's incredible how universal this illness has become.

 

First, I really enjoy reading what you shared with us. It makes me rethink and rethink why I am a femdom addict. What are the similarities comparing with my childhood? I was reading it and kept comparing it to the point where you mentioned "a lot of what I do now is driven by not me". I am talking to myself it is very true. It is not really me as well. That is not what I want to do.

Is Femdom something I really like? I think so but it causes unbearable damage to my family and the so-called Mistress's family (of course, herself as well). I was talking to myself I don't like causing damage, I don't like to be a bad person. I need to ask myself who I am and what I want myself to be. I just need to have enough reason(s) to get out of Femdom.

So, turning the femdom habits into a path that I actually should follow is right. Let's find the reasons to become ourselves again.

Lastly, really thanks for sharing your story and also making me moving things forward. I may be a lousy big mouth keeping talking rubbish. But I know if I can keep my promise to the end of my life, I can help the people around me and no more so-called pro/lifestyle dominatrixs hurt by me.

 

I've just come across your topic and I have to say that it has very much to do with my female domination addiction.
The very first time I've watched femdom material was in 2004 - I was 19 back then. Seventeen years on, I've watched so much female domination videos and I've seen so many pics that I just became tired and fed up with it all. I just cannot stand all that degradation and violence any longer. And it's really noticeable how you end up escalating towards more and more extreme material over time. I remember that I began with soft trampling content, foot worship, maybe some ballbusting and ended up watching extreme CBT and enjoying seeing women hurting men till they cry, even those gory videos involving blood didn't shock me anymore.
That's why I quit watching those things. And now I feel much better.

 

I can say I'm winning the battle against femdom. It's been a month without such things.
It isn't easy because there are "triggers" everywhere - whenever I see women in high heels walking across me I just feel like watching porn again. But now I feel I don't need it anymore.