1 YEAR TODAY!!!

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  1. kaow84141718

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    All you have to do is ask. :)
     
  2. kaow84141718

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    Sure. It boils down to this: what is your 'Why?' I know that seems too simple, but that was the basis of me getting started. In the past, my 'Why?' had to do with not wanting to watch porn anymore because it was a time waster, I was tired all of the time, etc... Those ideas focus on the here and now. It wasn't until the birth of my son that my 'Why?' really manifested itself: legacy. I have to not focus on the here and now, but my children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and so on. My choices either bring life or destruction. This is where you need to start.

    There are other tips and methods that I used over the course of the year that helped, but didn't help as much as having a strong 'Why?' This is what I would encourage you to do. If you need some help figuring that out, let me know and I can send you a private message. :)
     
  3. Craig365

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    congrats
    I am a 21 year old who has not made it past 5 days in the past 10 years.. i need some advice/help/support. Pornography affects my relationship with my girlfriend, my school work and stress levels.
     
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    I understand all too well the effects of pornography. I'm 37 so this was a struggle for me for 24 years. It affected everything! My wife would be asleep and I would watch it right next to her. It broke our intimacy, how I worked, I became isolated, etc. But now, I can say that I am free from the grip of it. I no longer crave it. Do I still have thoughts pop up in my head from stuff I used to look at? Yes. Does it make me want to 'PMO'? No. Not in the slightest because I finally realized something about porn that is blatantly obvious: it's not real. It never will be. What you have with your girlfriend is real and so much better than what 'PMO' can ever offer! Congrats on being 3 days 'P' free! Now let's go for 4!
     
  5. Craig365

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    Thanks! But true I guess porn gives us unrealistic expectations and when our real lives doesn't match up we go back to porn and stay in that loop. I Really wnna break free.. That's why Im gnna be more active and open about my problem.
     
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    Porn gives very unrealistic expectations. I lived in that trap for so long. I remember there were times when I would think to myself "Why doesn't my wife do this? I thought this is what women wanted?" Women don't want to be treated as an object of satisfaction. They want to be cared for and feel secure. They want to be cuddled and loved on and told DAILY that you love them. Being open about the problem will help. Talking about it helps. I'm more than happy to assist you in this process. It's going to be difficult, but it is worth it.
     
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  7. Craig365

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    Thank you bro I need this help.. Just need to make it to Tuesday at least. (never made 6 days yet)
    I actually spoke to my parents about this first time today was weird but turned out to be helpful..
    I wnna get out of the hole.. Tg there is this community and people like you to shine a light.
    I appreciate it, will try my best bro will msg you
     
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    Oh...It's cool
     
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    Good morning, fellow fapstronauts! It's been a while so I thought I would check-in and let you know my progress to date. Originally, my counter said x amount of days without PORN and MASTURBATION. I changed it to without PORN not too long ago as that is really where I am at this point. Full disclosure, I have masturbated 4 times in the last 490 days (and it's been within the last 2 months). There has been a lot of stress (which contributed some) and some weird things going on in my nether-regions which I think have cleared up. I do not feel like I've failed at all because the primary reason for joining this forum was to stop viewing PORN. To this day, I have NOT VIEWED PORN and I have NO DESIRE to view PORN at all! It's a win in my books and I want to continue to encourage others that there will be bumps in the road, but stick with it. That's all that I have for now. I'll be checking in more regularly as I need to get a handle on the stress in my life and DO NOT want to use MASTURBATION as a method to relieve stress. There are other ways!!! Have a great day!!!
     
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    I am 23 and this is the first time doing this I am currently on day 11 and I do feel so benefits, I am really looking to make it to a year and beyond.
     
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