Tired of being alone

Welcome. Yes this site is for all people. Women included.

I want to warn you as a female announcing to a forum of primarily men with sex addictions that your lonely, it could be setting yourself up for trouble. Please protect yourself. I hope you find help and support.
You are not alone, there are many who share your pain.

My advice is learn all you can about "your brain on porn".

Be careful. Take care of yourself.

 

The addiction will sap your energy and make you feel defeated many, many times. I want you to know that if you decide to start this journey, it will certainly not be easy and you will have to battle yourself every step of the way. But start by loving yourself and I guarantee that you will receive love in return. Set a goal for yourself and don't give up until you reach it - whatever that goal is. That's the human experience.

I believe that there is more love than hate in this world and if you look hard and if you look in the right places, you will certainly find it. But you need to start today and don't go easy on yourself. This kind of addiction has a strong grip and you need to fight it with everything you've got. You have come to the right place. I wish you luck.

 

Well, according to the Egalitarians on those "can men and women be friends" threads here, they would say you're in good company.

 

You're in great company @goodgirlrn . PM me if you have any thoughts or feelings you want to share.

 

The Egalitarians here have protested that men and women can be "just friends", with nothing to worry about at all.

 

Your not alone. Remove porn from your life right away. Pluck it put from the roots, delete everything remotely porn related.
It's going to feel like your going insane when you hard stop. When that happens do any outdoor activity it won't be easy. Avoid being alone try to have company a friend, family or ta key walks enything bit being alone with your celogin/computer. You can do this everyone here believe's in you.

 

Wow, this already seems creepy.

 

lol

 

Very key age. It is either do or die, but don't get terrified. Get excited and let's go. It is time to make a MOVE.

Your comments are great, but if she was male, wouldn't be creepy. So it is fast to react. I get you fully, though.

 

Actually, no, it's not creepy that I want to help someone. You assume that I'm only offering to help because she's a female? We're all in this together. You can PM me too if you want.

 

Look, you can consult a psychologist specialized on logotherapy (a kind of therapy created by Viktor Frankl)

 

Hi goodgirlrn, thanks for reaching out.

I'm replying without reading beyond your opening post so I can accurately give my first impressions.

It's great to see you've quickly identified you have a problem with porn and can't deal with it alone. Many go for a long time with out realizing it's an issue. As others have likely said, women are welcome here. This is an issue which effects both men and women. The "born again virgin" idea is awesome. I never lost my virginity until I was 31, three sexual encounters with one woman over a span of a month. There was no real connection between us and I felt I had to break away. Haven't had sexual relations with another since. Never have I properly dated or have a real relationship. In a couple days I'll be 38. While I may have "done the deed", I know I've never properly given myself to a women. Looking at it this way one could say I'm still virgin at heart. No way is that ridiculous, not properly learning how to form a connection and dealing with my own personal issues is what was.

I view porn as a symptom of our own distorted mind and spirit. Various places have helped me over the years. One is this very forum. In isolation a person comes to find they are not alone. There are limits to what one can do here though, I recommend finding face to face support groups. I found my way into Sexaholics Anonymous, a 12-Step fellowship. Being able to talk directly to others is great. Another option is some sort of counselling/therapy. I found this to be a great stopgap until I found the 12-step fellowship. Another great help has been church. Find one which focuses on Christ, less so on eternal damnation.

I wish you the best, there's a better life out there in store for you. One which you likely don't even see.

Edit:

It's interesting to see how my perspective on this is changing. Is it that a person feels like they are going insane when quitting or that we already were insane and are only coming to realize it while also also avoiding admitting so?

 

It's like han actual drug. If you hard stop the affects will make you feel insane. If you slowly stop by let's say. Go from 10 porn videos every day to. 5 a day the brain will cope with the slow change. Then go to 1 a day. The a week, then month so on so on. Until it's gift. The images then before you know it you can leave porn a lot easier now than just going for a insane hard stop. That's foolish to expect your brain and emotions to be OK with that hard turn of habit. In the end it's just a matter of decision and a slow stop to porn. And fill that gap were you'd watch porn. By doing something you always wanted to do but never had the courage to do it. Like playing guitar going to the gym. Or start to practice your social skills and focus on what your life needs to be better not what you think you want for your life. If you have family members and friends that are living and life you want for yourself. Just imitate there good habits thatyou know surely help you mental ficasly and keep you and curve in every health way possible. Of course eyou can modify that habit or mold it to fit your style of life.

 

this journey will require you to have a lot of things, such as oh, you being disciplined in all that you do, staying humble, being confident, and taking extreme ownership for your life and everything in it.

 

I took the "go as far as I can, fall down, stand back up and dust off my clothes" approach. Many different methods lead to the same destination.

 

You're not the only female on here thinking about these things, I have been single for a long time too and I think of stopping PMO as a way of making myself healthy, perhaps for the first time, in the area of my sexuality. All the best and certainly wish you well sister.

 

I am lonely as well.23 year old male, i would love to talk to somebody on the phone regularly and develop a close friendship.
My phone number is +491723084128.
If anybody is interested, i would appreciate it!

kind regards,
Felix